(Closed) Did your SO ask your father for his blessing?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
849 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yes, he did “get the blessing” from my parents, and my sister, actually! I think it was about a week or two weeks before he proposed… not sure. They didn’t tell me, so I was still very surprised at the proposal, which was great.

It wasn’t him asking for permission, per se… they all love him and he knew they would be thrilled. I think he just did it to be nice, and to start things out on the right foot.

Post # 33
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

DH did ask my dad, in fact he not only asked my dad to marry me, but he asked him to date me. I was a little younger than him and he knew if he was not in the family’s good graces it wouldn’t last. He and my dad ring shopped together too!

Post # 34
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My Fiance asked my dad and a day or two later he asked me.  Apparently my family is not very good at keeping secrets.  He also spoke to my sister as well beforehand (awww).  My oldest niece overheard part of the conversation and she text me saying “I know something you don’t know” lol  

Clearly it was a good idea to ask me sooner rather than later!


Post # 35
2346 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My DH did not ask my dad. He could barely get the words ‘will u marry me’ out so I know he would have been too shy to ask him!

Post # 36
935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

SO asked my mom.

My dad lives in another country and he’s never met him. 

Post # 37
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yeah Fiance asked my Dad (who apparently knew what was coming once he saw that I wasn’t with him and started blubbering lol).  He also asked my mom & step dad :).  Naturally my step dad had to make a joke about it haha

Post # 38
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yes! DH invited my parents out to lunch & asked both of them and I knew about it so I knew the proposal was coming! 

Post # 39
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’ve informed both SO and my dad I will be very unhappy if SO asks Dad because it really isn’t his place to give permission. I’m an adult who pays my own way, and I’m the one who makes decisions about my life.



Post # 40
12244 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

He did! He knew it was a basic expectation in my family. He did have to ask over the phone since we live 4 hours apart!

He asked on a Thursday, and proposed Friday afternoon (at Niagara Falls!)

Post # 41
275 posts
Helper bee

@orangeuexcited:  I told my Boyfriend or Best Friend a long time ago that it was important to talk to my father. He did it on his own without telling me. My dad laughed at him and said “Dude, you know if we didn’t like you that you would have been gone a long time ago. If you can handle my daughter and she likes you, then you two go figure it out and tell me what day to show up. You guys are adults and she always makes her own decisions”

He was embarressed, but I like to tease him about it. He asked me 4 days later. 

Post # 42
24 posts
  • Wedding: October 2014

My Fiance asked my dad the day before he proposed. We’d discussed the idea before so I knew that it was important to my Fiance to ask my dad’s permission before he asked me. Honestly, I think the ritual is a little old-fashioned, but my Fiance was dead-set on it and I know that my dad was thrilled about it so it all worked out. 

Post # 43
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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@orangeuexcited:  thanks 🙂 it was sweet of him, he is quite traditional and even though my dad isn’t really he quite liked it I could tell.

My mum apparently squealed like a baby when he called to ask her and was over the moon.

My parents live in New Zealand and I’m in Australia and I talk to them all the time, apparently my mum was freaking out every time the phone rang thinking I was calling to say he proposed! I think she was cracking under the pressure of keeping his secret 🙂

Post # 44
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@orangeuexcited:  No, my dad has zero input in my life. He did, however, ask my mom. He did it as a courtesy more than anything; he knew he wanted to marry me. He proposed about a month or so later (I think). 

Post # 45
639 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

He didn’t ask for my father or mother’s permission before proposing, but he did have a talk with them after he’d proposed (asking for their blessing). I’m really glad he did it that way.

Post # 46
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@orangeuexcited:  My husband did not.  He asked me what my preference was, and being that my dad passed away 12 years ago and I am in my 30’s, it just wasn’t something I wanted.  Had it been something that was important to me, I know my husband would have asked with my step-dad or my mom.

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