Post # 1
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Helper bee
So I’ve had wedding fever for about six months and throughout that time, my dream ring has changed. I think oval shaped halos are gorgeous, as are emerald shaped halos. But there is something about a perfect round brilliant solitaire on a platinum band that I can’t get over. My boyfriend and I have discussed looking at rings together before he proposes, and I’m wondering if my tastes will change again. I’m sure seeing something on *my* hand rather than online will make me feel differently.
Ladies who have gone ring shopping with their boyfriends, did seeing a ring on your finger vs. online change your opinion??
Post # 2
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Newbee
As much as I loved the ‘online shopping phase’ of our ring search (haha!) things really changed when my fiancé and I actually went shopping together. My original idea was for a 3-stone cathedral setting with halos, but I felt guilty because I hadn’t allowed him much of a say in the whole process. He randomly took me ring shopping one day, and we found one that was OUR choice. That made my misgivings go away. It felt perfect and romantic, and that made the proposal 6 months later much more special.
I still feel a little bad that I didn’t let him just pick one and surprise me, but… when it comes to spending thousands of dollars, I really don’t like surprises, and I’m picky.
Post # 3
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Newbee
Also (sorry for double posting), seeing it on your finger makes a HUGE difference. Hands come in all different shapes and sizes, so trying things on really helps you to decide if you want to wear this ring all day, every day, for years to come.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
I went looking at rings by myself first, always thought I’d want the classic solitaire diamond ring with white gold or platinum. Tried on different sizes and thought, that looks nice. But I wasn’t wowed until I tried on a morganite ring (long cushion, bigger than any ring I’d ever worn) in rose gold with diamond side stones, and thought wow the colour and style is perfect for me! Turns out I’m not a white / clear stone kinda gal.
I think you’ll only really know what suits you / what you love by trying on different things.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
igotmysign17 : My boyfriend and I were just discussing a similar sentiment today. I think my engagement ring has to not only fit my personal style, but also be a reflection of our relationship and style together…..kind of like walking into our house, it’s neither mine nor his, but ours together. I’m glad you had an experience that echos my thought. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Post # 6
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Helper bee
missyjz : I haven’t been shopping in-person yet. We’ve discussed it in general terms without a specif timeline. I’ve seen beautiful rings that I couldn’t imagine wearing myself. I do want to save any in-person shopping for when I’m with him, I think it would feel more special that way.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
- Wedding: Fireman’s Pavillion
I knew for years I went back and forth on favoring Pear, Marquise, Oval and Heart cuts.
Upon trying on rings with my fiancé we tried on all the shapes available (even cuts not on my favorites list). While I still love Marquise and Heart cuts we thought they didn’t look well on my finger compared to the pear and Oval.
You could potentially narrow it down and discover certain cuts aren’t for you.
Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
I thought I wanted a simple solitaire. Ended up with a three stone ring with channel set diamonds in the band. I never would have picked it from looking online but absolutely fell in love in person.
Some elements did stay the same though. Things I wanted that didn’t change:
– a sapphire center stone
– yellow gold
– 6 prongs, not 4
– round stone
Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Not drastically, but yes!
We were both thinking of a Tiffany yellow gold solitaire, but when it came down to trying them on in the store, I liked platinum much more with my skin tone (and loved the extra weight of it). Dh did too, so that’s what he ended up choosing.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
Not quite drastically but more than a little. The rings I picked out online didn’t look good on my finger at all. The ring my then-fiance picked out though looked gorgeous and that was what we ended up with. I’ve been wearing the ring for a year and a half now and still admire it a lot!
But then I’ve never been a jewellery person so I would imagine others who are used to accessorising would be more in tune with their preferences.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
We both wanted an emerald ring, not diamond, and I got that. But I wanted white gold originally, which didn’t suit me so we went for yellow. It also had a halo which I hadn’t liked online.
I also wanted a plain gold wedding band, but we both ended up preferring a two tone ring with engraving that I’d never have considered without fi’s input.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
I never looked in person, but when my fiancé and I first got serious and I looked at rings online, I wanted a four prong solitaire. I ended up falling in love with a six prong setting instead, something I never cared for.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
I looked online and found one I loved, and that’s the one we designed! I knew it would be a solitaire and the stone would be a sapphire. The only thing I was questioning was round or oval (I wear a lot of rings and knew those looked best on me). In the end after trying a couple on I went with my dream ring! It was almost the exact one I fell in love with online. But I also knew what looked good before I tried it on. And I knew with getting a different colored stone and a rose gold band that has marquis pave stones set east west, I wanted the cut to be more classic. In the end it was exactly what I wanted!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
A little bit yeah. Because I am not familiar with diamond melee sizes the ring from online we had planned on we did not get because we found one in person that had nicely sized diamonds. I had no idea the one I looked at online was chips and when I look at them in rings it’s not something I like for myself. Plus the halo style itself differed slightly. I am super glad we found the jeweller we got because we ended up with tank quality and I need that since I baby my ring a little less than others.
My overall style stayed the same though since we were only looking for halos(husbands choice)and already had a round stone for my e ring.
However! When I went sidegrade homework shopping in person and had no stone I found out I like cushions best out of all the shapes and I had always prefered solitaires. So for this my taste definitely changed when I had free rein to look for whatever I wanted. Who knows what will change though when it’s time to actually buy my upgrade what my shape taste will be like in a few years.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
At first I thought I wanted a very simple white gold solitaire. I didn’t want a halo, side stones or anything that would detract from the diamond. But once I tried a ring with a pave band it was over for me. It still allowed the center stone to shine but I love the extra bit of sparkle.