Did your mind change when you went ring shopping?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you change your mind on your dream ring between viewing rings online and visiting a jeweler?

    My taste or opinion changed drastically

    My taste or opinion changed a little

    My dream ring is still the same

    I didn't go shopping in-person

  • Post # 16
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2019

    Yes! I thought I wanted a vintage-y ring with lots of detail, milgrain, a halo, etc. But I knew I wanted rose gold (looks best on my skin) and I found that I didn’t love the way those rings look in rose vs in platinum or white gold. Plus we chose an amazing center stone that I’m obsessed with, so I wanted that to be the star. Ended up with a solitaire. 

    Post # 17
    307 posts
    Helper bee

    I picked that my taste changed “drastically” but it was really somewhere between that and changing “a little.” I knew I was interested in step cut stones but thought I was leaning toward an asscher. I also thought I wanted a very detailed, elaborate vintage-style ring, and most of what I’d looked at online was white gold/platinum.

    When I actually tried them on, I was really drawn to a very simple solitaire. The detailed rings felt too busy. I fell in love with an emerald cut because the elongated shape just looked so much more elegant on my finger than the asscher. And I found myself liking more rose/yellow gold than white gold or platinum.

    So my ring is quite different than what I’d imagined! But it’s also still in keeping with my taste, so it wasn’t completely out of left field. If I’d thought more about my taste in clothes & jewelry more generally instead of just getting caught up in pictures of pretty things online, I would have realized I’d want something more like what I ended up with. 

    Post # 18
    4068 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    Not drastically, no. For years I had been obsessed with emerald cuts. In my mind that’s what I wanted, end of of story. When it came time to look at them in person, I found the lack of sparkle a little underwhelming. I also realized how expensive it would be to get the finger coverage I wanted with an emerald cut. The jeweler showed me a rectangular radiant cut instead and I fell in love. It had the shape of the emerald cut but the sparkle of the brilliant cut. It was absolutely perfect.

    Post # 19
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    So much! My FH and I started talking about it and just decided we are going to get married. I started looking at rings online and sending them to him for opinions. I fell hard in love with an amethyst super detailed princess cut ring. Went to look and HATED it on my hand paired with the wedding band we have been gifted. Tried on some other blingy rings that FHs mom liked with the band, I was unimpressed they were too overwhelming for me. 

    Ended up falling in love with a moissanite solitaire. It’s a timeless look, so pretty on own so pretty with basically any band

    Post # 20
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2019

    I knew I wanted a peach sapphire set in rose gold. I wasn’t sure whether I wanted a halo or not at first, or what the shape of the halo would be. I also wasn’t sure if I wanted a diamond band or plain band. Those things became clear to me after I tried rings on.

    Post # 21
    10222 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

    I thought I always wanted a princess cut diamond with a halo and white gold. I ended up going with an OEC moissanite in white gold with a double halo, and eventually replaced the moissanite with an OEC diamond. I am soooo in love with antique cuts and I dont think I would have discovered them without the bee!

    Post # 23
    835 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

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    ispeakingifs :  I did all my research online before we went ring shopping and whatever I tried on and liked matched with what I had finalized maybe because I had already researched it very thoroughly and looked at multiple pictures and videos.

    I wanted a 6-prong solitaire with a thin shank of uniform width (not the taper style). I wasn’t sure if I wanted a yellow metal or white but I. Was leaning towards white and that’s what I ended up getting. 

    Post # 24
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee

    My fh is MUCH more particular about things than I am. I can find almost anything pretty, acceptable.  Lol. So I was very open-minded.  I just didn’t want it similar to my rings from my first marriage. 

    He was intent on a solitaire, elegant, simple, nothing busy. I had also suggested a sapphire or a moissy, instead of a diamond. We both liked white gold, I also like rose but he doesn’t. 

    He vetoed sapphire. We set s budget about $4k.  Up to 1ct. 

    I decided at the jewellers I did not like cold f1 moissanite. And we tried on some 1ct diamonds n moisseys. I asked for some simple pave stones on the band. 

    I loved the warmer moisseys. 

    This was the ring we both liked in b n w in.the store 1ct moissey  in a trellis with accents.. white gold, f1. 

     … but the color photo  is what I ended up receiving! 1.5ct moissey, low set  4 prong with micro pave. White gold. Warm stone. 


    And I love it. 



    Post # 25
    93 posts
    Worker bee

    I thought I wanted an oval halo, but after trying on lots and lots of rings, I wasn’t loving the halos.

    I really just loved the sparkle of a round brilliant above any other cuts – so I got a round brilliant on a pave band.

    Post # 26
    2352 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I always said I would get a certain type of antique ring. THen I went in another direction with a modern ring. Its not me. Its pretty, just not who I am. I only wear antique jewelry. My band is from 1910. I have Victorian rings. I’m so mad that I didn’t go with my gut. So I have 4 rings and one is modern. 

    Post # 27
    2871 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

    My tastes changed drastically when we went to try on rings. My Pinterest was filled with cushion cut halos and princess cut solitaires but when we went to look at rings in stores ended up loving round brilliants. Now I have a floral yellow gold halo with a round center stone and might be upgrading to a platinum pave solitaire. My tastes are still changing lol.

    Post # 28
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Scotts ~ Walnut Creek

    Didn’t have a specific style in mind when we went since I never wore jewelry. I was thinking 1 ct would be fine but that was it. Browsing helped me figure things out.

    Tried 1 ct on and had a yikes moment. Seemed overwhelming on my small hands. Decided a stone below 1 ct was best.

    Appreciated unique design over bling. A little sparkle was perfect. Solitaires weren’t my style.

    Loved emerald, oval and pear cuts. Not so wild about round and princess was a no.

    Ended up with a double halo, .25 emerald center, split shank VW ring.

    D H wants to get me an upgrade *soon*. Has assured me he’s been paying attention and taking my preferences into account. I’m still a bit wary since his idea of perfection was a 2 ct princess cut solitaire. 🤮 This was the reason we purchased our own rings. But I trust him so we’ll see.

    Post # 29
    6702 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I didn’t really ever look in person but I had picked out a “dream” stone (was going to be a someday ring as I already had an heirloom) that was an antique round (oec) or an antique cushion or an avc (modern replica of antique cushion). The first old cut stone I ever saw in person was the one we bought. The whole thing was online and I loooooove it. Just got lucky that it all worked out. Don’t recommend this method! Ha!

    Post # 30
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2021

    My taste in engagement rings changed so much. I had no idea what I liked going into it. I really hadn’t ever given a ring any thought until I met my boyfriend. In early fall, we went to look at a few jewelers and it took me hours and I still couldn’t decide on a specific style that spoke to me 100%. I fell in love with oval diamonds with petite halos. Months later, I ended up choosing a round and round halo! I think your taste will change over time. And because rings and stones look much different in person when they’re actually on your finger. 

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