(Closed) Did Your Mom Pay for Your Wedding Dress?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll:
    Yes, My Mom Paid in Full for My Dress : (132 votes)
    51 %
    My Mom Paid for Part of My Dress : (28 votes)
    11 %
    I Was On My Own : (100 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 106
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    535 posts
    Busy bee

    My mom paid for my dress. I didn’t ask, but she offered. Fortunatley, my custom made dress was lower than what she planned to pay. And my dad won a free wedding dress preservation service at a raffle, so I guess he “paid” for that! 

    Post # 107
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    259 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    bitsybee:  I completely agree, a gift is different from financial dependency which is a complicated and often sensitive subject.

    Expecting money from parents/relatives is unrealistic. Everyone’s got there own financial troubles ie renovation work, medical bills, student loans etc, contributing to a wedding is just not possible for lots of people and that has to be respected. I’m very fortunate that my parents have offered to contribute and I love having them involved in my planning.

    To be honest, my post was aimed at another bee for her ‘young brides playing dress up’ comment haha

    I’m sorry you and your husband are going through such a terrible time, hopefully things start to get better soon *hugs*

    Post # 108
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    1649 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2000

    No I paid for my dress myself, didn’t even think to ask and had no idea this was a “thing”

    Post # 109
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    892 posts
    Busy bee

    it’s fine if your parents want to offer to help out with the wedding as a gift, that’s really nice. but people who expect their parents to pay because of some archaic tradition? no. 

    Post # 110
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    1241 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    Man, Bees be JUDGIN’!!!

    Post # 111
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My husband and I paid for most of our wedding, but my mom did buy my dress.  She also helped with the cake and flowers.  I got my dress as a sample and it cost $600.  I was very grateful that she wanted to do that for me.  It really meant a lot.

    Post # 112
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    893 posts
    Busy bee

    I expect we’ll be paying for most of the wedding since my parents are far from well-off financially and neither are FI’s parents, but I went looking at dresses with my mom last weekend, and, honestly, I could see her impulsively pulling out her credit card to pay, haha. I’m not saying I expect her to, but I know her. She loves buying things for her kids; my mom has always been a mom before anything else.

    Post # 113
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    bitsybee:  Let me make myself clear. We wouldnt be able to aford the wedding in the time frame we were now planning it. We are paying for half of it ourselves, my parents OFFERED to pay for what they’re paying. It was NEVER expected. So before jumping to conclusions and assume that I expected them to pay, please realize I never did. If it was last year, with my mom not having insurance and her cancer, I would of said no, because the medical bills are ridiculus. But everything worked out and my parents can help with what they OFFERED. Yes their gift was given freely, as in, we weren’t “expecting it or depending on it”. We were planning a longer engagement in order to pay for it ourselves, SORRY my parents offered to pay for what they’re paying? I’m a full time college nursing student, and when I’m not in school, I’m taking care of my mom because my sister is away at school and my dad works 7 days a week. Oh and I do work… Just incase you think I dont. Next time just tag me in the comment, because it was obviously towards me. 

    Oh and I didn’t call you petty, bitter, snarky, jealous, etc; I was refering to anyone who has a problem with someone elses mom, dad, family wanting to help with the wedding dress and or wedding. 

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  heyhihello.
    Post # 114
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    heyhihello: appreciate the clarification. That additional context makes it clear that my comment doesn’t apply to you. 

    I’m sorry that your mom had to battle cancer and I’m glad things are working out for you. 

    BlondeSunshine: it’s a shitty situation and sometimes the worst comes first. i appreciate your sympathy because sometimes I do need the reminder that things can get better. 

    Post # 115
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    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: Beach

    I bought my dress online without telling anyone and my mom found out and was really sad. She said she would have paid for it, but I don’t like people buying me stuff and it was only $85.

    Post # 116
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    5 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    bitsybee: It was originally aimed towards me, but I don’t mind clarifing.

    My mom is still batteling cancer, but she was able to get health insurance (finally) and it covered alot of her previous bills as well as the current ones. Thank you for your sympathy, it means a lot.

    I hope your situation works itself out, situations like that really suck, especailly when it comes down to exploiting someones death in order to take advantage of you and your Darling Husband. Really hope that this situation works itself out.

    Post # 117
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    43 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - Dade City Garden Club

    we were planning on going to the court house and getting married, but my mom insisted we do the dress and all, especially with her being diagnosed with ALS. she wanted to see me in a wedding dress. She paid for my dress and a good portion of the wedding, the rest of my family helped as did my husband and I. I felt bad but she insisted.

    Post # 118
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    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    heyhihello: eff cancer. I’m going to pray for your mom’s recovery and eventual remission if that’s ok. I lost my grandma to cancer when I was eight and it changed my father. 

    cancer sucks. Love is awesome. <3

    I am praying that I can trust my dh’s sense of boundaries and value of our very new marriage to help his family in an appropriate, sustainable way. He’s so giving and generous (which I love) but sometimes overly so. I don’t want us to miss out on kids, a home and retirement because we’re too busy enabling other adults to live beyond their means just because they expect it.

    Sorry for the novella – it’s been weighing on my mind:\

    Post # 119
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    My mom offered but I did not follow up. I got married older so she was elderly and my parents were already retired so I didn’t think it was her responsibility but really appreciated her offering, particularly bc she wasn’t a pain about that or anything else to do with my wedding, just happy for us and supportive.

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