(Closed) Did your officiant run the rehearsal?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Did/will your officiant attend the rehearsal?



  • Post # 2
    11517 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

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    dancindavinci:  our officiant will charge to come to the rehearsal.  He said that most couples do it without him as we have a private meeting about 2 weeks before the wedding to go over everything and our ceremony is written by us (with guidance from him) so we’ll have the whole thing to go through, we will probably have someone ‘play’ officiant.  We’re just really doing a walkthrough so everyone can see the place and get a feel for where we’ll be and how long the walk takes 🙂

    Post # 3
    718 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Our officiant wouldn’t have charged, but she basically said we didn’t need her at the rehearsal.  I ended up taking one of our programs and the ladies at our chapel went through the whole thing. It was perfectly fine the day of the wedding. Nothing went amiss, and it was nice to hear it for the first time that day.

    Post # 4
    2608 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    Our officiant will be at the rehearsal and we are paying extra for that service. But we do not have a wedding planner/coordinator. Our officiant is very familiar with our ceremony venue and she is the one planning out all of the logistics of the day – from where everyone enters, how we walk up/down the aisle (it has three different entrances and a “roundabout” type intersection in it) , where people need to stand, where things need to be set up etc…Since we are planning to be outside in a garden or if it rains inside a room that overlooks the gardens it’s nice to have someone there with experience of how everything should be set up.

    Post # 5
    223 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Our Officiant ran the rehearsal and I am glad she did!  We had to pay but it was worth it.  We had a lady from the venue helping out with positioning but the officiant made everything very clear and easy.

    Post # 6
    4045 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Our celebrant charges extra to attend rehearsals. Initially we weren’t going to have her there, but closer to the date I realized I felt a bit lost and wanted her guidance. Luckily she had that evening free still. She ended up coming free of charge because she took a little longer than she expected to write our ceremony, which was very sweet of her (as the ceremony was still written with plenty of time to spare).

    I am glad we had her there. Even though we had a coordinator from the venue who really put together all the logistics, I realized our celebrant added a lot to the rehearsal. We also had some elements of guest participation – such as a ring warming and our guests actually being the ones to declare us married. It was good for her to explain that to our wedding party, friends, and family who were at the rehearsal, and I think it helped make the ceremony go much smoother. I also liked being able to run through our unity ritual. I was a bit lost the day of in regards to that even with the rehearsal! I would have stood there awkwardly waiting for directions without her guidance the day before though.

    Post # 7
    7643 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Wow! It’s interesting how many of you ladie’s officiants would charge extra or said they weren’t needed. Interesting 🙂

    The church had a day of coordinator so she felt it was her job to run things (until she crossed me with things that were NOT her decision and I put her in her place), but, in my opinion, our officiant ran things. She made sure we knew when to do what and where we needed to be according to her layout. She was extremely helpful, and I couldn’t have imagined practicing without her there.

    Post # 8
    9875 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Our officiant came to the rehearsal but he definitely didn’t run it. We had a DOC and she helped with the positioning and such, but the officiant really just went where he was told and gave us a copy of the ceremony he would be using. We had a super short ceremony though.

    Post # 9
    9560 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    our officiant did not come to the rehearsal and it wasn’t really neccessary for her to do so.

    we had 4 sessions with her prior to the wedding when she decribed to us the order and what would happen.

    i ran our rehearsal,  i showed our wedding party the order they would walk in, where they would stand, and the order they would leave.  we ran through that a few times, taking 15-20 minutes.

    everything was perfect at our ceremony.


    Post # 10
    4810 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

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    dancindavinci:   Our officiant will be at the rehearsal, but the Day-of Coordinator will be running the show.  

    Post # 11
    178 posts
    Blushing bee

    From my research yes most Officiants charge extra for coming out to the rehearsal but if you’ve met them already and have read what they’ve written for the ceremony, you really don’t need them there.

    We’re personally getting married the day before so it’s legal and having our really good friend conduct the actual ceremony. So he’ll be at the rehearsal and it’s much more affordable and  meaningful that way.

    Post # 12
    1863 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Our officiant was at the rehearsal. He did charge for this service, but that was alright because he needed to be there for the ceremony we were having. I also had a DOC who helped run the show. 

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