(Closed) Did your parents act strange before a proposal?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

The day we got engaged, I went out with my mom, and someone asked me if my then-boyfriend and I were going to get married. I was pretty much over it by then, and gave a sarcastic response…the person said, “It could happen any day now. It could be tomorrow!” and I shot back, “It could have been any day for the past few years!” My mom, who had been gushing about how great my man is just moments before, was strangely quiet. 

So, yeah, it was a little weird…I don’t think she knew he was proposing that night, but they had picked out the ring a few days earlier, so she knew it was coming. My dad also seemed extra happy and talked about what a great couple he thought we were…he later told me how excited he was knowing the proposal would be soon. But, sorry to say, there’s no way to tell if that’s why your parents are acting this way. At least you have a timeline. You’ll be engaged before you know it!


Post # 3
334 posts
Helper bee

I’m a bad person to ask because I only tell one friend about engagement stuff. I won’t talk to my parents about my relationship because I feel like it’s not their place to know what goes on in my private life. 

Maybe they both think that since you have a year long window to wait, eventually everybody will get tired of talking about it, the “nobody cares about your wedding as much as you do” mentality, so this way when he does propose everybody will be excited? 

Also, stop looking for clues! You’re just going to work yourself up and then be disappointed if things aren’t exactly as you imagine on a certain date/time/occasion/holiday/trip to your parents. Just enjoy being together now. 

Post # 4
4025 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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taurus12 :  My mom did some great acting the week my (now) hubby and I left for the vacation that he proposed on. I talked to her about how I didn’t want to ruin the trip by expecting a proposal that might not happen, and she managed to comfort me without letting on that he had come over to ask the whole family for their blessing! 

My advice would be to just try to enjoy being together – the proposal will come. It was the best surprise of my life, and I’m glad I just went in with no expectation other than to enjoy every second of our trip. Just enjoy every little special moment for what it is 🙂 I know it’s easier said than done – I wish you a short wait! 

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