Post # 17
Yes! My family has known that we want to get married, and he’s already such a big part of the family. He goes to all our family events and whatnot. I love that about him 🙂 My mom and I had a good cry afterwards.
I know not everyone does this anymore, but I felt it was important. It allows parents to feel involved in the process and to be on the same page as the couple.
Post # 18
Not engaged yet, but I don’t think my SO is going to ask for my parents’ blessing. My parents just don’t really care LOL. My sister’s husband asked my dad for his permission before he proposed, and my dad literally said, “what the f*ck are you asking me for!? aren’t you supposed to be asking her!?” LOL He just didn’t get it!
Post # 19
SO hasn’t proposed yet, but he asked me if I thought he should ask my parents for their blessing. I told him I didn’t think it mattered either way, but that my parents have both told me many times that they respect my choices in life and trust me to make the right decisions for myself. Sure enough, my father made a comment to me the other day that he expects SO will be becoming “closer” in the near future and that he trusts my decisions in life (and jokingly added “As if [he] get
a say anyway!”). My mother has said the same thing. Given that, I don’t expect he’ll ask for their blessing because it’s not anything any of them deem to be an important part of the process, which is totally fine by me!
Post # 20
First husband asked. Shocked parents said OK then 3 weeks before the wedding cried begging me not to. 12 years and a divorce later… Maybe I should’ve listened.
This time around no asking. Foolish for a 40 year old to ask a painfully shy 75 year old. My father would be soooo uncomfortable and my mom is a misery of a mother in law so… No.