Post # 1

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Helper bee
I have always heard the bride’s parents are supposed to pay for the wedding. I think times have changed a lot, especially depending on what area of the US you are in as well. I wonder how many parents actually DID pay or help out with the wedding.
I would never EXPECT my parents to pay for anything, but if they wanted to help out I wouldn’t be opposed. Did your parents pay for your wedding?
Post # 3

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Bumble Beekeeper
My mom did help out a little. She is helping us purchase some of the alcohol for the wedding [about $300 worth].
I did vote no though, because 99% of the wedding will be paid for by me & fi.
Post # 4

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Sugar bee
No. I thought it was only in movies parents paid for their children’s wedding, to be honest. I realized, when I started reading wedding boards, that most people seem to receive either financial support from their parents, either other forms of support (cooking, crafting, etc.).
Our parents haven’t offered any help. His seem barely interested in our planning. Mine rarely ask, I’m the one who brings the subject up in conversation when I need advice or just to vent. I’m surprised they’re so not involved. Especially my parents. They were so happy when we announced our engagement. But I guess they don’t want to step on our toes or something.
Long story short, we’re left alone for everything.
Post # 5

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Bee Keeper
We paid for the ceremony and our parents paid for the reception.
Post # 6

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Busy bee
My parents are paying for the bulk of it (food, and tent, table and chair rentals). We’re paying other large expenses like photography, flowers, DJ, attire, alcohol, etc. and all smaller details.
Post # 7

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Helper bee
@NauticalDisaster: I always thought that too! My parents haven’t mentioned anything about helping and I wouldnt expect them to pay for my wedding, but they could atleast act a little interested lol but yea maybe they’re just trying not to step on our toes
Post # 8

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Busy bee
Yes. My dad was so happy when I told him I was getting married he cried. The first words out of his mouth were “I’m paying for it!” We had a really low key wedding that probably cost about $8000.
Post # 9

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Buzzing bee
Mine are, and the honeymoon as well. They have always said the parents pay for the wedding, and the honeymoon is their gift. They are very wealthy though.
Post # 10

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Bee Keeper
Mine didn’t help with anything. They also paid for college so I don’t have loans, a much better investment in my mind. My dad also gave me a ton of antique furniture for my house…. again a much better investment than one day.
Post # 11

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Helper bee
It will be a 50/50 split between my parents and FI’s parents 🙂
Post # 12

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Bumble bee

@Merinda1994: Not everything, but we had help.
My dad gave me $1200 towards my dress.
My mom and stepdad paid for hors d’oeuvres, food and wine.
DH’s parents paid for an open bar during the cocktail hour.
My sister made our wedding cake for free. I had a crazy amounts of help from my sister/MOH! She also made the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and flower girl basket to save money.
My step-dad made our ceremony decorations and my mom did the ceremony flowers.
I borrowed an old suitcase for cards, vases from my sister for decor, etc…
The inlaws also took care of the rehearsal dinner.
it all adds up 🙂
Post # 13

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Sugar bee
@Merinda1994: My parents didn’t contribute anything to my first wedding or this one. My exH didn’t even contribute to our wedding. I paid for the whole damn thing. This time Fiance and I are paying just about 50/50.
Post # 14

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Helper bee
@MrsWishyWashy: Wow I wish my dad felt that way lol. My dad is more than happy for us but he hasn’t mentioned anything about helping out. Like I said I wouldnt ever expect him to, but it wouldnt be nice if he atleast acted interested. My dad isn’t struggling either, so it just kind of upsets me he isn’t more involved.
Post # 15

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Helper bee
@jadlnc: wow, well I feel better now knowing not everyone has super rich parents paying for their whole wedding.
Post # 16

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Bumble bee
Yes. My parents paid for the reception/flowers/dress/decorations/photographer etc. and my husband’s parents offered to pay for the open bar.
We were so thankful they were able to help us out!