(Closed) Did your parents pay for your wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: Did your parents pay for your wedding?

    Yes

    They helped out

    No

  • Post # 17
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    @Merinda1994:  my parents contributed a set amount,  which his parents matched,  so they paid half

    Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes, my parents paid for our wedding. They were very generous. 

    Post # 19
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    If it were the bride’s parents job to pay for the wedding, I would never get married! Fiance and I have paid for just about everything ourselves. I don’t think I’d turm down an offer for help, but I really don’t expect my parents to hand over $20,000 for a party

     

    Post # 21
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @Merinda1994:  Each of our parents are giving 4K to the wedding. Mine had helped with my siblings wedding so we get the money and can use it how we want, wedding, student loans, house or a trip. His parents are being generous as we didnt expect anything from them but they offered to help. We still have a portion to pay ourselves but its really not that much about 2-3K. We think they were thinking we’d be up to 30K with the wedding but everyone agreed a small, family oriented event was the right choice in the end.

    Post # 22
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    Sugar bee

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    @Merinda1994:  My dad has money, he’s just stingy, lol. Alright, well he’s frugal. And he thinks if I’m adult enough to get married, I’m adult enough to pony up the dough. Also he has no say in what I do with my life. I’ve always been free to be with whoever I choose, go wherever I choose and do whatever I choose. So it doesn’t bother me that he didn’t pay for anything. I get what I want on my own terms. 🙂

    Post # 23
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    My mom isn’t in a financial situation to be able to help. FI’s parents are helping us out with the venue(which includes everything but photog, cake, and apparel). His mom paid for over half my dress too. I felt awful letting her pay for it and tried profusely to pay her back but she insisted and I can say I probably wouldn’t have my dress if she hadn’t helped me. I don’t think we would be able to get married where we want to without their help, so it is wonderful and I am so appreciative.

    Post # 24
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    We are paying for some things, like the church, honeymoon, rings, wedding licence, my accessories etc. 

    My parents have been extremely generous and are paying for most of the reception. 

    FI’s parents recently surprised us by offering us some money which was so generous of them, because due to some other things going on in their lives they must have had to cut back on spending to be able to give it to us. I’m so grateful for what our parents are giving as without it we wouldn’t be able to afford a wedding for another year and the budget would certainly be smaller. 

    Post # 25
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    Sugar bee

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    @Merinda1994:  Did your parents pay for your tuitions ? 

    Sometimes there are others forms of help, that even if they don’t translate into cash numbers for your wedding, did contribute to your current financial situation.

    I’m not saying that to be snarky though ! My parents didn’t pay for my education, I did it all by myself. I’d probably be 90K richer today if they had paid for it. 😉 So this explains that, if you read the topic about debts for the wedding. Assuming I invested 90K already in my education these past 9 years, and today barely have 20K worth of debts total right now (which is quite exceptionnal), I absolutely feel NO SHAME whatsoever for considering taking a small (5K) loan for our wedding, to help pay the caterer. 

    But you can easily imagine 5K would not be a problem have I not had to worry about tuitions this past decade. Even if my parents wouldn’t have paid for my wedding, they would have contributed to my financial situation. 🙂

    Post # 26
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

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    @Merinda1994:  Both of my and my FI’s parents are helping where they can.  As of now his parents have offered to pay for the bar, which is wonderful because we don’t know what that will add up to until after the wedding which would stress me out.  His mom came dress shopping with me also and gave me a few hundred dollars to go towards that which was so nice of her (and helpful for the deposit!).  They helped us with a downpayment for our house (we found one sooner than we anticipated) so I doubt they will provide much more (financially speaking) to the wedding.  But I am just so thankful for what they are helping with!

    My dad is helping us with whatever he can. So far that has been with deposits etc.  He is not wealthy, and owns his own business so sometimes business is good, and others it isn’t!  My mom (my parents are not together) struggles a bit financially so she will not be contributing financially, however, I know this upsets her and she wishes she could so I will be enlisting her to help with things like making our favours (jam) etc. so that she feels involved and like she contributed!

    I did not expect either side of our families to help us pay for the wedding and I defintely thing that the notion of the bride’s family paying is a very out dated tradition.

    Post # 28
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    My mom is paying for everything but we insisted on paying for the photographer, DJ and officiant because we liked them the best and they all came with larger than normal price tags so we felt guilty about her paying for exta expensive vendors that we picked ourselves.

    The total cost of everything is around the 24K mark so my mom was amazingly generous.

    Post # 29
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Yes, my parents are paying for our wedding. My grandma paid for my parents wedding and it was expected that they would pay for mine. I think if I had asked for a ridiculously expensive wedding then they would have reined it in a bit but we both were on the same page with regard to cost. 

    My parents are happy to pay for it and I will be happy to pay for a wedding for my daughter, if I have one. We also are sticking to more traditional wedding “rules” such as my Fiance asking for my father’s blessing. 

    Post # 30
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    No but they and my aunt are helping out by paying for some of the costs. My father will be paying for the photography and my aunt will be paying for the reception, catering, and favors. We have also found ways to try to cut costs such as scheduling our event on a weekday and our friends also volunteered to help out, one will be doing my makeup and the other is making our cake; we just have to pay for the ingredients & cake decor. 

     

    Post # 31
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @Merinda1994:  My parents will be paying for the wedding, but mostly because the amount it’ll cost is equivalent to a weekend away for them, while it would take me at least 2 years to save the same amount. 

    They aren’t giving us any money, but rather, they’re hosting. While generous, it comes with strings attached. If I could elope or go to city hall without an outcry from immediate family members and best friends, I certainly would. 

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