(Closed) Did your parents pay for your wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Money
  • poll: Did your parents pay for your wedding?


    They helped out


  • Post # 47
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    my parents are prepared and have offered to pay for the whole wedding, but his parents have also offered to contribute. the split will be up to them to decide, and i don’t think we’ll ever know the % split or $ numbers – that’s their business. i hope it will be somewhere close to 50-50 as i don’t like the idea of my parents paying a lot more.

    we certainly don’t take anything for granted, and are extremely grateful for their help, but my parents had mentioned other times that there was a wedding fund, just like there was a university fund. additionally, we are both one of two siblings and our brothers are extremely unlikely to ever have a traditional wedding – so in some ways, this is ‘it’ for our families as far as planning and hosting a traditional wedding.

    Post # 48
    649 posts
    Busy bee

    We’re paying for everything ourselves.

    Post # 49
    565 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    My parents are paying for my dress, the ceremony, and the venue deposit. His parents gave us 10k and we’re paying for the rest which is about 25-30k. It would be awesome if our parents offered to pay for the whole thing but I don’t expect anyone to pay for the things that we want and don’t need and I am really grateful they were so generous in the first place!

    Post # 50
    1308 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We we’re going to pay for our own until that announcement caused a multi-day argument with my parents (mainly my mom) who were hurt that we weren’t letting them do something they’d always wanted.  My mom passed away a few weeks ago and my dad has repeatedly said that they (he and in honor of my mom) were still insistant on paying for our wedding.  That being said we’re still picking up the tab for all of the smaller items (all the stationary, rings, accessories, fun stuff, and since we have a package deal we’re picking up all of the extras on top of the base package rate – anything extra we’re paying for).

    Post # 51
    13798 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Both sets of parents hosted and paid for our wedding, splitting the costs. We did not at all take that for granted and were very grateful.  I hope to do the same one day for our children. 

    Post # 52
    327 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Im having a Destination Wedding so my parents paid for the wedding package, and my dress. My aunt gave us some $ which covered the food, photographer,  and gifts/favors/little things. So we just need to pay for our flight, we also get $ back for having a certain amout of travellers come with us.

    Post # 53
    3201 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    My parents have helped out, but they have paid for more than we have by now. I bought all of the paper, linens, made most of the decor, and we have paid for our venue ourselves. My mom bought my wedding dress, and they have paid for the cake, the photographer, and our food. 

    They offered to pay. 

    Post # 54
    7551 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    From early on my parents have said they would pay for the wedding, my grandmother paid for theirs, they are very traditional in that respect. However FI’s parents have offered (more like insisted on) to pay half, which is very nice of them. Fiance and I will try to cover some costs ourselves, like our rings probably, depending on what we can afford to do.

    Post # 55
    1883 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Honey, you are far from alone… I think many more couples these days have to at least contribute to their own weddings, let alone pay for it all… We will probably get 0% help from either side. The benefit is that there are no strings attached and Fiance and I do what we want and what we say goes… No one can take credit for making that day happen except God and us!

    One of my Bridesmaid or Best Man had her wedding paid for by her parents. She wore the dress her mom wanted, it was at the church her mom wanted, her mom invited who she wanted, and the list goes on. She says it was not her wedding at all… Sigh, I am trying really hard to focus on the silver lining if you can’t tell, haha! I do enjoy freedom and the fact that I can ignore all outside opinions like nobody’s business…

    Post # 56
    623 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Merinda1994:  My parents gave us $5,000 towards our wedding and paid for my wedding invitations and save the dates. His parents are paying for nothing. We are paying for everything else. Total for everything it’s gonna cost between $20,000-$25,000. I didn’t expect or ask them for money they offered. I’m so grateful for that too because that definitely helped.

    Post # 57
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

    @Merinda1994:  I definitely don’t think it should be expected. Too many brides feel entitled. But I’m with you, if they want to help out I think it’s great. My parents really wanted to help out but they weren’t able to financially. But they did a lot of other stuff to help out.

    Post # 58
    1436 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    My parents and Fpare paying half and half for our wedding. We ate paying for our attire and occasionally a deposit here or there.


    Post # 59
    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Yes my parents paid for all of ours. I think it’s still definitely an expectation for the bride’s parents to pay. We will start saving for our daughters weddings when theyre born. I would feel very ashamed if I could not afford to give my daughter a wedding. Every wedding I’ve been to the bride’s parents have paid. 

    Post # 60
    87 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I voted “they helped out” My parents graciously decided to give each of the girls a set amount of money when they get engaged with no strings attached.  I can be used for wedding, but does not have to be – could be down payment.  If you went the traditional wedding route, it would not cover it. My wedding is much more small/casual and the give will more than cover it. 

    Post # 61
    91 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    My parents live paycheck to paycheck and won’t be able to help out financially. Also, because they live 15 hours away they can’t really help with the planning or prep. 

    His parents haven’t offered to help us with the wedding. But, they have helped us in various other areas of life. 

    We are going to be paying for the wedding, and because we just moved and are starting new jobs, we currently have no money. I’m absolutely going to get married this year though… even if I have no idea how i’m going to do it.

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