MemberThis summer me and my SO spoke about getting engaged and he said what scared him most was asking for my dad’s blessing before proposing.
I just laughed immagining my dad’s face! He would just be like Why aren’t you asking her?
Did any of your SO’s ask your dad/mum/both before proposing?
MemberMy dad has never been in the picture but he did call my mom. He didnt’ ask permission per se, but did give her a heads up that he was going to propose and made sure she was ok with it.
MemberAround a year before my DH proposed, he asked my dad if he should ask him before he popped the question. My dad laughed and said “no way!”
So no, he didn’t lol.
MemberYes, he asked my dad. I know some will say it’s outdated, sexist, etc. but I like the tradition.
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BeeYes, although he didn’t really ask my dad, he actually just gave both of my parents a “heads up” as he likes to call it. 🙂
Right after my aunt got married DH made a comment to my parents about us being next. 😉 Of course I wasn’t around for it, but apparently it was very sweet and my dad got super excited and brought out the scotch to celebrate LOL!
MemberHe “asked’ my dad a week before he asked me. He basically showed him the ring real quick and told him he’s about to ask me to marry him. It was before a football game, actually. The conversation was funny.
Fiance: I’m nervous…
Dad: Why are you nervous? It’s just a football game, we always win this one anyway..
Fiance: No, no, I want to ask missmorganista to marry me. *takes out ring real quick*
Dad: Oh..OH… *happy*
and then I walk into the room completely oblivious. haha.
Memberyes he did. he took them out to dinner when they were visiting for my graduation.
MemberMy DH knows I would have said “no” to his proposal had he asked my dad/parents, haha. I find the trandition a little offensive.
MemberYes. That’s how half of NYC knew I was getting married before I knew.
MemberHe asked afterward. The proposal was super spontaneous- so when we called to tell my parents, FH got on the phone with my dad and said apologized for proposing without asking for his permission. It was a very sweet gesture which was kind of funny considering both of them are super progressive feminists.
MemberMy husband did not. I’ve never asked my parent’s permission for anything in the past, so no reason to start as an adult. 
MemberMy fI asked my dad before proposing, I wouldn’t have cared either way, but Fiance wanted to keep with tradition.
MemberHe did. It was very, very important to me that he did it because I view it as a sign of respect to the father. Fiance knew how important it was to me, so he did it. I don’t know if he would have otherwise.
MemberYes. He asked for a blessing, not for permission. It was really important to me! I’m pretty sure if I had a daughter and wasn’t asked for a blessing, I’d be upset. My DH asked his own parents for a blessing too.
Asking for the blessing was a good thing too because both sides of the family were pumped and waiting to hear that we were engaged. Sometimes it can be an awkward conversation when you get engaged and they don’t have heads up.
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