(Closed) Did your SO ask your father for the blessing?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Did your SO ask for your father's blessing before proposing?
    Yes : (292 votes)
    59 %
    No (if not please tell me how come, PLEASE avoid negativity and sharkiness!) : (207 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 62
    1 posts
    • Wedding: March 2015

    He did not ask. He didn’t even talk to his own parents about it. We’ve been together 3.5 years and everyone knew it was coming, so he tried to make it as much of a surprise to everyone as possible. I would have been more surprised if his heart hadn’t been beating so fast! 🙂

    Post # 63
    12246 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Absolutely! I let him know I couldn’t accept a proposal my Dad didn’t approve of!

    Post # 64
    150 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2016


    I don’t really love the symbolism of it anyway.

    Fiance has a daughter and he jokes that if a man ever asked him to marry his little girl all he would tell him is “If you are asking me, no you cannot. Why don’t you go ask her”

    Post # 65
    561 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Well, first off, my father passed away before Darling Husband and I even met.

    Aside from that, I am one who finds the tradition outdated and rather insulting. It’s my decision, no one else’s.

    Post # 66
    2156 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @crisy003:  My Fiance did not ask my dad’s permission.

    My dad isn’t very.. traditional. He loves my Fiance and knew a proposal would be coming soon anyway. 

    I’m not at all hurt or disappointed by this.

    Fiance said he had planned on asking my dad, but he proposed before he had the chance!

    Post # 69
    522 posts
    Busy bee

    Yes. It was important to me (I’m not sure if it was important to Dad) that my SO involved my family in our plans. He asked, and told my father approx. when he wanted to propose. 

    Post # 70
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Nah. My family was well aware of our intentions, so asking just seemed unnecessary.  I am 26 years old, and haven’t lived with my parents in a very long time.  While I love my parents very much and have a great relationship with both of them and my step-parents, it really isn’t their perogative to “give permission” when it comes to me anymore. Just like my daddy walked me down the aisle, but he didn’t “give me away.”  

    I knew my parents loved my husband, and that was enough for me! 

    Post # 71
    39 posts

    My dad passed away 2 months before I met my SO so he never got the chance. Otherwise I think he would have and I know my father would have said yes.

    Post # 72
    1011 posts
    Bumble bee

    Blessing, yes.  Permission, no.

    Post # 74
    8439 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Nope, for a few reasons: my father and I aren’t close, I’m an adult, plus my father is dead.  I’m sure it’s different if someone is close to their parents.

    Post # 75
    546 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    Mine did and I was really glad! We’d been together 4 years and already lived together, so it really wasn’t necessary, but I’m the first kid to get married and it was really important to me that we had my dad’s full support.




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