(Closed) Did your SO ask your father for the blessing?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: Did your SO ask for your father's blessing before proposing?
    Yes : (292 votes)
    59 %
    No (if not please tell me how come, PLEASE avoid negativity and sharkiness!) : (207 votes)
    41 %
  • Post # 92
    Member
    5373 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    He talked to my mom and dad at the same time. He didn’t really ask for their permission, he let them know that he was planning on doing it and he wanted to make sure they respected this decision. I’m very close with both of my parents so it was important to me that they were somewhat involved in the process (:

    Post # 94
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    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @2dBride:  Well yeah… if my mom was alive I would expect him to talk to them together. But the white thing— while I don’t question your explanation of the source, common belief now is that it’s a sign of “purity” and I’m just sayin’, by that standard I shouldn’t be wearing it. But like another bee said- almost all the wedding traditions are really silly and dated. I don’t think SO needs to “ask for my hand” but I think it’s a nice gesture to go talk to my dad, let him in on the surprise and make sure he’s on board. 

    Post # 95
    Member
    250 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We didn’t do a proposal — Darling Husband and I jointly set a wedding date. We did, however, ask BOTH sets of parents (mom + dad) for their blessing in person when we announced our engagement. We were very happy with that approach.

    Post # 97
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    739 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @crisy003:  I think a lot of Bees have SOs who just aren’t gutsy enough to do it, and they shrug it off by saying they wouldn’t have wanted him to anyway ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 98
    Member
    739 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MexiPino:  wearing white was not a sign of purity, it was a display of wealth (to have an obviously brand-new fresh white item of clothing that is only worn once).

    Post # 99
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    7199 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @blushpinkbride:  Well either way, I’d have no business wearing it ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 102
    Member
    302 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    When I was 14 my mother dropped us off at our grandparents and eloped. He had been living with us maybe 2 years but there was no engagement and no family member had a clue until it was over. —-Now I did the asking to my fiancee spur of the moment, so there was no need or reason for him to be asking my parents. My parents got all butt-hurt and tried to blame him and be mad about not asking lol I told those hipocrites to shut up immediately.

    Post # 103
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    2540 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    No, my dad is dead. My mom was really sad that Fiance didn’t at least mention anything to her beforehand because in her culture the parents are really involved, but that lasted about 30 minutes and then she was bragging to everyone she knew that one of her girls was getting married. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 104
    Member
    2671 posts
    Sugar bee

    @crisy003:  My now-FI asked my dad June 30th and proposed July 17th. My dad was so shocked he asked and is so proud that he did. He was telling the story of how my Fiance asked him for his blessing at a deer hunting party last weekend. It was so sweet.

    Post # 105
    Member
    892 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    No, because he asked my mother. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 106
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    2777 posts
    Sugar bee

    @crisy003:  my Fiance didn’t and I would never  have asked him to. Even though hypothetically, my dad would have said “of course!”

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