Post # 1
Hey bees! i’ve wanted to write a post for a bout two weeks but everytime i tried it seemed like i had wayyyy too much to say and it was jus all over the place complicated…
Okay, well me and the SO have been abit distant. We are “planned” to be engeaged in a month or so and I think he has the case of ‘cold feet’. WE both know we love eachother and all that good stuff but wth is going on ? Hes just weird latly not a good weird just weird. I dont want to go all into it becuase onestly i just want to hear what your gals have to say or expereced with this “cold feet hoo haa” . Did you or SO ever get the cold feet? What happend ? How did you guys resolve it ?
Post # 3
Have you tried talking to him about it? Communication can solve pretty much anything.
My husband didn’t go through that, but we were always, always, always communicating about the why/when/etc of getting engaged and married. I think the fact that everything was always out in the open, and we were always free to talk about anything we were nervous about without fear of judgement played a huge role in driving things forward smoothly.
Post # 4
@crayfish: Yea we talked about it once, i asked him if he was getting cold feet he just said he wants to be safe with money annd just wants everyhting perfect, but i dont think thats the case hes jus dealing with it in such a weird different way than me ,, im just excited and stuff .. this is making me not want it im thinking about telling him to wait a bit longer to get engaged…:(
Post # 5
I had a similar situation – I thought we were both on the same page and really wanted to get the ball rolling, so to speak, but after months of waiting, even though we were talking about it a lot and he said he was on board, I got a feeling that things weren’t right for him yet.
Even though we had set a date to go get a ring custom designed (for him to propose with later), I told him the night before that I didn’t think we should go anymore since it felt like I was sort of forcing the situation…
I don’t think it’s a matter of him not wanting to, and I’m thinking that’s not the case with your guy either. (I later learned that he has something in mind for a certain time of year, which is why it hasn’t happened yet.)
My friend just got engaged this past August, and she said her boyfriend was acting really strange and distant the week before he proposed, but that was because he didn’t want to accidentally say something to spoil the surprise!