(Closed) Did your SO see your dress before the Big Day?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Would you let your SO see your dress before the wedding?
    No, keep it top secret with an alarm on the closet : (84 votes)
    60 %
    Sure, let him help by showing a couple, but don't tell him what you chose : (30 votes)
    21 %
    YES, He has good taste so ask for his help : (27 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 31
    6524 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Elle_bee:  im bad at keeping surprises too bc i just get so excited lol but ultimately i kept it in bc i got more excited about seeing his reaction. 

    So why dont you go try on some dresses and pick out your top 3 contenders and ask him to label them from favorite to least favorite? 

    Post # 32
    6560 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    No. It never once occurred to me that I should know what his preferences were. It’s MY dress! I did not interfere with what he chose to wear, and he had no say in what I chose to wear. The idea that a man would have a strong preference about wedding dresses just strikes me as really controlling. He loves me; presumably he will think I look stunning in whatever I choose. Darling Husband never once saw my dress (or really any wedding dresses, as I didn’t look at them while he was around) before the ceremony, and he most certainly was not there when I was dress-shopping or having alterations done. As for which styles he thinks he would like, those dresses might look entirely different ON me, so what he thinks he would like might look terrible on my body type. I got to choose how I wanted to present myself, what looked the most flattering on me, etc. That wasn’t his call to make.

    Post # 33
    1317 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Nope and when i tried to show him he did not want to see it. lol

    Post # 34
    1648 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Elle_bee:  I’m not huge on superstitions or anything but I REALLY wanted that jaw dropping reaction when I walked down the aisle so he didn’t see my dress or me until I walked down the aisle.

    Post # 35
    594 posts
    Busy bee

    I wore a red satin cocktail dress from the 1960s that I’d had for several years (but never worn). He saw it multiple times beforehand – we’re not into tradition, ha.

    Post # 36
    2680 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

    He saw it months before the wedding because I was excited & wanted his opinion, but come the day of, he was still speechless & beaming from ear to ear!

    I also highly doubt that he really remembered what it looked like, other than itit being long & some hue of white haha. Plus, if we’re going to get divorced or receive some kind of bad luck, it won’t be because he saw dress beforehand 😉 

    Post # 37
    1553 posts
    Bumble bee

    I showed Darling Husband a picture of me in my dress after I bought it. We’re not big on tradition or superstition, so it was fine. And I’m positive he forgot what it looked like until the wedding day came around.

    Post # 38
    312 posts
    Helper bee

    I would show it to him, but I don’t think he cares if he see it. I will bring it home soon so it will be in our house if he wanted to look, but I am sure the thought of looking at it won’t cross his mind

    Post # 39
    170 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    My Fiance and I moved to the Midwest (we are both from Washington) and I have absolutely zero family or friends even close so he went shopping with me! He also has attended my fittings (to the shock or the ladies at the bridal salon!). As he put it so gracefully “she needs me to help her get into her spandex.” Lol! 

    Post # 40
    697 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    My Fiance saw my dress in pictures (on a model) and on tv before I even bought it but he doesn’t know that’s the one I chose. I’m glad he saw it because then I got to hear his opinion on it beforehand. We both like ballgowns but he can be picky on some details and so can I. So this way I got to get an idea of what he liked and what he didn’t like before I actually bought the dress. We have very similar tastes though, so it made it very easy which I was grateful for! I’ve kind of described my dress to him a bit but I didn’t want to tell him too much. We both want it to be a surprise until our actual wedding day 🙂

    Post # 42
    1445 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    smg5281:  I prefer shopping with my Fiance more than anyone else too. He has great taste and loves to shop, where I don’t. I just want to give him a surprise on our wedding day. 

    Post # 43
    1200 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Malibou Lake Mountain Club

    MissTNBookworm:  hello!!! Im a 6/19/15 bride 🙂

    Post # 44
    1842 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I’m sewing my own dress.  I just finished my first muslin (plain cotton, not like the satin and sheer lace it will end up being), and I needed his help smoothing out the train and taking pictures of it!  I really needed the pictures to see if I needed to make any changes.  He’s also seen the drawing of the finished dress on the pattern.  

    I also secretly wanted his opinion, so it was a good opportunity.  He was really against me making my own dress, but he hasn’t brought that up since he’s seen it.  I think this has eased his concerns a bit!

    It’s going to look pretty different once I’m using the actual fabrics, and have my foundation piece finished.  I’ll be a lot more careful once I get into those stages.  Realistically, I’m probably not going to be able to do all the sewing when he’s not home, and I don’t have a dedicated sewing room, so I’m just going to have to try my best to hide it.  

    Post # 45
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Yes, he saw the picture before I decided to buy the Chinese knock off and after it arrived he asked to see it so I let him. I saw no reason to keep it secret. But then he also helped me dress the day of the wedding and we took all our pics before the ceremony 

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