Post # 1
In talking to some friends about my recent engagement it came up that Fiance had in some way, shape or form asked for my Dad’s “permission” to ask me to marry him. I thought the gesture was romantic, not to mention totally gentleman-like (I should add that it made my Dad feel really good too). Anyways, one girlfriend said that it was “so sweet because it was outdated”.
I’m in no way offended, but it definitely got me thinking. I’m just wondering how common this is now? Did your SO/FI/DH ask permission from your Dad or someone equivalent for your hand in marraige? Thoughts, feeling, comments?
Post # 3
I was 19 and pregnant when we got engaged … a little too late to ask for permission, eh!
Post # 4
@BanditGirl: Haha, my brother asked his 18 year-old girlfriend’s dad for permission, and I totally made fun of him for it. Like, “Really bro? You already took more than her hand!”
Post # 5
I got married 28 years ago-nope! No one did that back then-WAY before then, but not then. I find it kind of odd that it’s being done again. lol.
Post # 6
Both my Brother-In-Law and hubby went to both my parents and didn’t really ask, but just said I plan on asking your daughter to marry me. My parents thought it was kinda cool and nice that they were notified first. They just all hugged it out and had a drink together to celebrate!
Post # 7
He asked for both my parents permission. We were together 6 yrs when he proposed and for my father; he thought my Fiance was pretty late! lol
So, he felt the need to ask both my parents (they’re both police officers and not emotional) until he asked and showed the ring. Evidently, that’s all that took, both were in tears.
And I’m glad he did it …. 🙂
Post # 8
i do think it’s old-fashioned (maybe traditional is a better word?), but it’s a very sweet gesture!
Post # 9
Fiance didnt ask but he told him that he was going to propose & told him when & where. Maybe bc we have a daughter, he didnt feel he had to ask but wanted him to know. Apperantly my whole family knew lol, my little sister even hid the ring until the night he asked!
Post # 10
J wanted to, but my situation is a little bit difficult. My dad was never in my life. My mom and I don’t really get along. So, he’d have to ask my grandparents, but on Christmas Eve – he couldn’t find the right time to. I do know that he was going to tell my grandmom he was planning to propose, but thought she would cry or something would happen and I’d be curious.
Post # 11
Yes DH asked my dad about one week before he proposed!
Post # 12
Mine DH did and it made my dad feel really good and respected!
Post # 13
My Fi did and I think it’s really just a nice gesture these days. He didn’t actually need permission of course. We are a little older (FI-38 and me-30), but I think my father really respected his decision to ask. I found out later from my step-mother that when my father tried to tell her what just happened he couldn’t get it out without tears. Then they were both in tears!
Post # 14
My Fiance didn’t ask my dad, which surprised me because Fiance is pretty traditional. I didn’t mind though, because I already knew how much my dad loves him.
Post # 15
Yea he did, I thought it was so romantic and sweet. I had mentioned that I thought it would be nice maybe a year before he proposed, but I didn’t expect him to! It was so great because he asked right before we left on our engagement trip to NYC, which is where my parents live but it was supposed to be a “secret weekend”. After he proposed I called my dad to tell him the news and he said he knew it was coming, but when they found out we were in NY they were so excited they took us out to lunch 🙂 It was truly the best weekend ever.
Post # 16
My Fiance didn’t ask for permission per se, but he did call my parents to tell them that he was planning to propose and to ask for their blessing.