(Closed) Did you/Will you have a Rehearsal/ Rehearsal Dinner?

posted 11 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Will you have a rehearsal and Rehearsal Dinner?

    Yes, we need one due to _____(explain)

    Yes, but because it seems right to have one --(explain)

    No Rehearsal, but we will have the Dinner --(explain)

    No Dinner but we will have the Rehearsal--(you guessed it, explain)

    Neither!

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We did a very casual R/RD.  We had a large Wedding Party (6 on each side) and most had never been to teh church and were just arriving that day (Friday).  So the actual rehearsal was great for them to get to meet the pastor, see the church, etc. 

    Our actual dinner was a fun way to say thanks.  It was held at our nieghborhood clubhouse and we catered BBQ.  I think everyone was happy it wasn’t stuffy.  Also not having it at a restuarant was great because people got their plates, got up and down, went for seconds, etc. We had about 30 people for dinner. 

    After dinner we invited our Out of Town guests for drinks and dessert.  We had about 15-20 show up it was nice to get to spend some time with Out of Town family that I really didn’t get to spend much time with at the actual wedding. 

    Post # 18
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We are having one at a lodge with gourmet pizza from a local pizza place. We decided to expand it to include relatives and out of town guests that are attending the wedding. This just gives us more time to spend with everyone. Yes, it’s a bigger group to feed (45 people) but since my fiance and I are moving to Germany, it’s our chance to see everyone other than the wedding day.

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We have to set up the venue ourselves the night before, so I’m thinking we’ll do a quick rehearsal with our attendants, just to get the timing down, and then start setting up. If they want to join us for dinner out afterwards they are more than welcome to, but it’s not necessary and we definitely can’t “host” anything, unfortunately.

    Post # 20
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We definitely needed to have a rehearsal – a lot of our wedding party is from out of town, so doing the actual rehearsal was necessary.  FI’s parents offered to host the rehearsal dinner, so we accepted.  It is definitely not anything fancy, being held in the private room of a local Greek restaurant.

    Post # 21
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Rehearsal to make sure we know that will be going on the day of and the dinner afterwards because it’s nice to have the groom’s family host an event for the wedding party and it’s nice to treat your wedding party to the meal and have a stress free dinner for the bride and groom the night before.

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We need to have one b/c everybody will be coming from out of town and I don’t want complete chaos on the day of. We will just have a family BBQ afterwards since we are having a backyard wedding/tent reception.

    Post # 23
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We are having one to make sure everything runs smooth. We will have the dinner right after. We will eat gumbo.

    Post # 24
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We had a Rehearsal Dinner mostly because 90%+ of our guests were from Out of Town and the Rehearsal Dinner gave everyone a chance to meet everyone else and relax a bit.

    We had it in a private rented home on the island we got married out on, and my husband and I paid for it (we also paid for our wedding). We served a traditional Maine lobster bake, steaks/chicken/burgers, pasta and green salads, beer/wine/lemonade and I also made tamales (my husband’s mom’s family is Mexican-American). My mom made desserts.

    There were about 30 people there, and it was really fun! At first I had wanted to have it at our favorite restaurant, but that would have been too expensive, and our wedding was formal, so it was nice to welcome everyone to the wedding weekend with something more casual and laid back.

    Post # 25
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We dont really NEED one because we’ll be having a very small (20 people) destination wedding and no one besides me and the groom really need to be prepared for anything 🙂 We’ll still have a nice small welcome even though and go over the gist of things with our officiant

    Post # 26
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We needed the rehearsal for sure to practice a run through, make sure everyone knew where to stand, the timing, etc.  None of our wedding party had ever been to the church before, nor had they met our pianist so it helped work out any kinks the day before. 

    We all would have gotten together to eat one way or the other since several family members were Out of Town so a Rehearsal Dinner made a lot of sense.  We reserved the banquet room of a local BBQ place and had a small buffet.

    Post # 27
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    You should add a “no rehearsal, no dinner” option. We’re getting married at the courthouse so there’s just no need for it.

    Post # 28
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    We NEED to have a rehearsal because our Wedding Party (total of 10 people) are all from out of town and we need to do a walkthrough of the ceremony so everyone (including me and FI!) know what to do when.

    The dinner is to thank them all for coming out a day early since they’re all Out of Town.

    So yea, it’s tradition, but it’s a totally necessary tradition in our case!

    Post # 29
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    Busy bee

    Wow – it’s finally my turn to say ‘because its tradition in my family/ies!’  lol.  I’m always bucking traditions that don’t have a real solid meaning behind it but yes, we would do a rehearsal and a dinner afterwards.

    It’s just expected in our families, I guess.  When I got married the first time I had one, too.  I am super OCD about stuff and need to know what happens exactly and when, so rehearsal is great so I know what to expect.  It will make me so much more calm plus I won’t have everyone saying ‘what do i do?’ ‘where do i go?’ and stuff.  And the dinner afterwards is a thank you to the bridal party and their spouses/so’s (since the bridal party has their life interrupted when doing ‘wedding’ stuff) and its when our families/friends typically give the bridesmaid/moh and groomsmen gifts and give a speech thanking everyone.

    Post # 30
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We need to since my dad is in a wheelchair and we’re getting married in FI’s parents’ church (which my family has never been to).  Plus part of our bridal party is coming in from out of town.  Plus the dinner afterwards to have time to talk to our out of town guests (bridal party members), give gifts and timeline, and make sure what everyone’s schedule is for the next day.

    Post # 31
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We had a rehearsal dinner. 

    We did do a short rehearsal because we were planning on having a park ceremony and the aisle was really long and kind of confusing. However, it didn’t matter seen as it poured and we had to use our rain plan location where we didn’t rehearse and everything went seamlessly.

    The dinner was nice, it was a backyard BBQ at our house. It was a great opportunity to thank our family and wedding party in an intimate setting.

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