Post # 32
We had a rehearsal for a couple of reasons. None of my bridesmaid’s had ever been in a wedding (nor had I) so we all thought we would benefit from a quick run-through. Me especially, because I was very nervous about it all, and wanted to have at least some practice beforehand. And since our ceremony was a collaborative effort between us and the minister (it was his basic ceremony, we tailored it to us, a snip here, an add there, readings, etc), he wanted the chance to run through it with us. That said, I think we would have been okay if we hadn’t had the rehearsal. It may have even given our wedding a more organic feel…but I don’t regret doing it.
We also had a rehearsal dinner, but it was very casual. My Mother-In-Law had made up about half a dozen types of quiches, and two different soups, and bowls of salad and bread and such, and we had it at her house. All of my family lives across the country, and it was one of the first real opportunities our families had to meet each other. My Mother-In-Law is also the consummate hostess, and didn’t want anyone from out of town to have to spend money eating out.
Post # 33
We did both. My sister skipped the rehearsal for her wedding and all the music cues and entrances were wrong. haha. I was a little worried.
Post # 34
We had to rehearse so everyone knew what to do on wedding day. There were a lot of people to coordinate. The dinner probably wasn’t necessary, but we had a lot of out of town family so it was great to spend some extra time with them. It was also a nice start to the festivities and it was wonderful to have time to relax and have a stiff cocktail after all the stress of getting things set up a the venue, last minute appointments, etc. Thankfully my in-laws planned the whole thing- it turned out more like a wedding complete with cocktail hour, plated dinner, an acoustic guitar player /singer, slideshow, centerpieces, etc. In a ballroom. If I had done the planning it would have been something much simpler like a local restaurant or barbecue in a park, but it was still nice.
Post # 35
The wedding party is infested with people from musical ensembles and theatre so I think everyone would panic without a reherseal (as would I).
I think my biggest concern with the reherseal is seeing how long it takes the grandparents to go down the aisle (to determine if we need two songs or one, really hoping for one).
Post # 36
My IL’s just said they were going to have one and we said “okay”. I probably would have just said lets all go out to dinner after because it was supper time after rehearsal. I definitely think they are a good idea for the bridal party and family to just relax the night before the big day!
Post # 37
We didn’t have a rehearsal dinner. This is not something that’s even heard of in my culture, and we didn’t have a bridal party (just Maid/Matron of Honor and BM) so we didn’t see the need for it. We did have a brief rehearsal since nobody that was going to walk down the aisle including myself really knew what to do. We politely asked the officiant and the DOC if they would join me and my family for dinner later, and they politely declined. After the rehearsal I went to a regular dinner with my relatives in town, my husband went out with his friends for a mini bachelor party which consisted of getting drunk in someone’s hotel room.
Post # 38
we had a rehearsal dinner for all bridal party, immediate family, AND out of towners. so basically, half the wedding guests! we were in the “it’s the right thing to do” camp since it’s the cultural expectation of our families. i definitely don’t think it’s something everyone HAS to do, and i don’t expect other couples whose out of town weddings we go to to invite us. BUT in our case it was expected, and my in-laws, who were hosting, wanted to and had the means to. my cousin actually got married a month before me and didn’t invite all out of towners to the rd, and some of our older relatives were really really offended–it’s just totally expected in the older generation of my family. i thought about doing an intimate dinner with just bridal party and immediate fam, and then a dessert or cocktail reception with all out of towners (which my brother did and which was acceptable to the older relatives), but the in-laws wanted to feed everyone. i really loved our rd though–it was really nice to get more of a chance to see and talk to people who had come from far away, and it lessened the pressure of having to get around to everyone at the actual wedding since i had already been able to speak with a lot of people.
Post # 39
We will need to have the rehearsal … i’m having three of my nieces as flower girls, and His side isn’t catholic, so it will be good to do the rundown. I seriously look at the rehearsal dinner as a couple of hours to relax and spend some time with my family before the huge day.