(Closed) Did you/will you invite sibs’ in-laws to your wedding? [drama, long]

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Did you/will you invite your sibs' in-laws to your wedding?
    Yes -- all of them. Doesn't everyone? It would be rude not to! : (11 votes)
    13 %
    Yes -- all of them, but it's uncommon as far as I know. : (7 votes)
    8 %
    Some of them yes, some no, based on our personal relationship with them. : (22 votes)
    26 %
    No -- but there are special circumstances. I think most other people do. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    No -- don't know any of them well enough, and doesn't that seem kind of gift grabby besides? : (43 votes)
    51 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    7873 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think it depends on the size of the wedding and their relationships with the people.  This is certainly not an obligation though!

    Post # 33
    Member
    611 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @village_skeptic: Ah gotcha. Then in that case her husband and his family way are out of line! And I feel bad for her being caught in the middle.

    Post # 35
    Member
    1827 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    my future mother in law is old school and insists that her son’s (my future brother in law) in laws be invited, INCLUDING the sister in law.

    i think it’s a little odd. but it’s definitely for my future mother in law rather than me and my fiance. she said when one of her other kids gets married, my parents will be invited as well. (my parents totally will not want to go, but that’s a story for another time)

    don’t get me wrong, they’re nice people and all, but i never would have thought to put them on the guest list.

    that being said, they did send us an engagement gift, which was extremely nice. we also just spent thanksgiving with them, as future brother in law and his wife JUST had a baby. but this Thanksgiving was really only the first time I’ve ever had more than a 2 word conversation with any of them!

    Post # 36
    Member
    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    if i was to redo our wedding i would happily invite my BILs parents because they are wonderful and i know them (not BILs brothers though) but i wouldnt invite my SIL’s side – ive met them, they are ok but we are not friends.  IF my SILs side of the family invited me to their wedding i would be wondering why

    Post # 37
    Member
    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    You are free to invite or not invite whoever you want to your wedding.  My fiance insists on not inviting his uncles because of their strained relationship with his mother, so they won’t be invited.  However both extended families of my future sis and brother in-law are invited since they’re friendly and part of the family.  It all depends on how close they are and whether you really want them at the wedding.

    Post # 38
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    878 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Hell to the no!!!!!!  My isters in laws give her enough grief, there is no way Im goin to allow that influence at my wedding.

    And to be blunt, they weren’t even anywhere near my radar for wedding invites.

    Maybe if you were super close to them, had grown up knowing them, MAYBE then.

    But under normal circumstances – NO!!!!!!

    Post # 39
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    726 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    So, I totally didn’t read this right so I didn’t vote correctly. I thought it was asking if I’d invite my sister in law to my wedding hahaha. I don’t have a sis-in-law (I have a bro-in-law), but if I did I’d invite her too! But am I inviting my brother in law’s parents? No. Why would I? I don’t know those people. Those are the people you’re asking about inviting, right? 

    Post # 40
    Member
    132 posts
    Blushing bee

    I am inviting my sister’s SIL, but that is because she works for my mom and I have a relationship with her aside from her being my BIL’s sister.  We’ve exchanged Christmas presents.  I know my sister’s Mother-In-Law & Father-In-Law, but not as well, so I am not inviting them. 

    Post # 41
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    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    My sister’s husband’s family has had three weddings in the time that my sister’s been married. We weren’t invited to any of them, so I’m assuming they won’t be offended that they won’t be invited to mine. Also, I extremely dislike my sister’s father in law and we’ve already filled the quotient on father-in-laws I extremely dislike on the guest list.

     

    Post # 43
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    688 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I thought I was so lucky because all my siblings are way younger and not married yet. My older is in FL and hardly speaks to her In-Laws. Well to my suprise my Future Mother-In-Law asked me to invite her daugther’s Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law to our engagement party. I really like the sister’s Mother-In-Law but the Father-In-Law is a little iffy. I invited them out of respect to my Future Mother-In-Law and they declined. They did send us a gift but I felt that they thought I just wanted a gift.

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