(Closed) Did you/Would you tell your parents how much money you got for your wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you tell your parents how much money you got at your wedding?
    Yes, whats the big deal? : (124 votes)
    59 %
    No, its not their business : (64 votes)
    30 %
    Only a few individual gifts if necessary : (23 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I told mine. Bu I grew up with a banker and a real estate agent for parents so money is a perfectly acceptable dinner table topic in our house. 

    Post # 4
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    7904 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I told mine. They want to know how much to return in kind by, at least approximately.

    Post # 5
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    8331 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I wouldn’t really care. My parents are like best friends to me so I really have nothing to hide.

    Post # 6
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    1828 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I’m going to look at it from the view of the guest giving the gift. Personally I wouldn’t like how much I spent/gave being discussed by anyone. When it’s time to give a gift to another family member that should be based on how much you want and can afford to give…it’s not tit for tat or a competition either.

    Post # 8
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would. I don’t have any problem sharing my finances with my parents. My fiance’s parents would never ask that kind of thing, though.

    Post # 9
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    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    Ugh yes.. my mom is omniscient and knows all. 

    Post # 10
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    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Well, I would tell my parents what kind of physical gift someone gave me. You can guess (or look up) the monetary value of a physical gift, so I don’t really see how this is much different. I am extremely close to my parents, however, and we discuss all of our financial matters, so your situation may be different.

    Post # 11
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    1444 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My parents asked, and I told them.  I think it was more of a “how much money do we need to make sure we give to so-and-so when they marry?” kind of thing…so it didn’t bother me.

    Post # 12
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We had no issue sharing specifics with our parents and close family/friends. People are curious, can’t say I blame them. My mom asked for specifics on certain family members (mostly on my side) and my Mother-In-Law asked for specifics on a few members of her family. I don’t really see this as that big of a deal.

    Post # 13
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    574 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We told both sets of parents how much we got in general.  I think they all had a good idea of what everyone in the families gave, because we weren’t the first ones to be married.

    Post # 14
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    2792 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Darling Husband and I opened all of our cards & gifts with my parents. My mom is the one who wrote down a running list as we opened. I had no problem sharing that with them.

    Post # 15
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    14441 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I told her everything about the gifts.  I didnt see a problem with them knowing..

     

    Post # 16
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    4046 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    My mom is super weird aout money in general, no way would I even discuss it.

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