(Closed) Did you/Would you tell your parents how much money you got for your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you tell your parents how much money you got at your wedding?

    Yes, whats the big deal?

    No, its not their business

    Only a few individual gifts if necessary

  • Post # 47
    3974 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    My DH casually told his dad when he was saying how generous everyone was. I don’t talk to my parents often.

    Post # 48
    768 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We’re both very close to our parents, and my Future Mother-In-Law made a good point – she said she’d like to see us open our cards/gifts so that she knows how much to give to her friends’ kids when they get married. 

    Post # 49
    1472 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We gave both of our parents kind of a rough estimate if they asked–I think we just mentioned that we had almost broken even with the money we spent (we paid for most of the wedding).

    In some cases, my parents have asked, “In what range did Aunt X or cousin Y gift you?” when those relatives had children who were getting married, and I felt comfortable telling them.

    Post # 50
    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Stammie16:  Sounds like our parents are very similar! I soo envy you ladies who are so close to your parents.

    Post # 51
    2128 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I told my parents. We’re very open with money in my family and don’t see it as a rude topic. To DH’s parents though, money is taboo.


    Post # 52
    887 posts
    Busy bee

    We opened all our cards/gifts at my parents’ house, so it would have been pretty hard to keep that a secret!!

    Post # 53
    3054 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

     yeah… I think it depends on your parents. I would not tell my mom how much for various reasons…but then I am not comfortable sharing very much information with her at all anyway.

    Post # 54
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    She isn’t asking you to pay her back or anything is she?

    I am sure she is just curious and doesn’t want to wait several years to know how much people usually get.  I don’t see the harm in it.

    Post # 55
    3997 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m close with both my parents so I’d have no problem telling them and probably will (: Fiance isn’t close with his and they won’t care so they’ll probably never know


    Post # 57
    1197 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    we didn’t tell but then again they didn’t ask…if they had I would’ve told but I think it’s a private thing and they shouldn’t ask.

    My dad DID ask about a few specific people because he had given their children large gifts and he expected that we’d gotten a big gift in return.

    Post # 58
    25 posts
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I’m voting no, my mom is way too noisy and would tell everyone. Like it matters!

    Post # 59
    527 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    My parents didn’t ask but I did tell them.  They were there when we opened our wedding cards and presents and a lot of people gave us cash in the cards so they saw it.  

    My sisters also know because they were there too (along with DH’s parents and sisters) my youngest sister offered to write down who gave us what present so we could thank them afterwards, which was a big help!


    Post # 60
    4858 posts
    Honey bee

    I’ll tell my mom if she asks (my dad won’t ask, haha).  We’re very close and I just can’t see why not!

    Post # 61
    4090 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would not tell my mom.  She’d passively expect me to take a chunk out and fly her to my state and host a vacation for her.

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