(Closed) Did you/Would you tell your parents how much money you got for your wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Would you tell your parents how much money you got at your wedding?

    Yes, whats the big deal?

    No, its not their business

    Only a few individual gifts if necessary

  • Post # 62
    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I’d tell them no probs!

    Post # 63
    2 posts
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Parents are a part of a very very very small crowd that it is appropriate to discuss money with. both my parents and his know how much we earn at work, what our bonuses are, and they will know what we get as gifts.  you make it weird by trying to hide it, whats the purpose? are you afraid they’re going to ask for you to use it to repay them?  take the stance that what you do with the money is between you and your hubby, but just as everyone at your shower wants to know what you got, your family will want to know how you made out at the wedding. Sometimes parents ask this too to see if they should give you more to supplement, maybe they had a $ figure in mind and wanted to see if you hit that.  I’d say don’t make a big deal out of a little curiousity.

    Post # 64
    3189 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @jmbliven:   you make it weird by trying to hide it, whats the purpose?

    The purpose is not having our parents or in-laws using it to gossip about or bad mouth other family members, or expect you to do things for them too with the money since they helped host. Your parents and in-laws might not pull that crap, but it doesn’t mean others wouldn’t.

    Post # 65
    1583 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    My mom was more concerned about how much certain people gave. I told her how much we got because she asked. We had a 270 person wedding with only 5 physical gifts so I can’t say I blame her!

    Post # 66
    417 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I discussed some of the physical gifts with my mother (the ones from her siblings) but I’d never tell her how much money we got. No reason for her to know.

    Post # 67
    761 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My Dad is getting married a week before me – he’ll ask but not in a nosey way, he just asks questions about everything. If he tells me what he gets I’ll just say, oh about the same, no matter what it is.


    Not sure if my Mom will ask, or if I’ll tell her. I might just be vague and tell her we’re not too much out of pocket or something (paying for our own wedding).


    My SIL will ask for sure so she can compare…not sure how I’ll handle that one.

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