Post # 31
I’ve done it. It’s typical in Indian weddings to take photos of the bride and groom with every guest, usually in family groups (eg. your aunt uncle and their kids- your 2 cousins with you and the groom would be one group) You don’t have much choice as people (especially the older generations) will parade up and call the photographer to do it anyway! Haha.
Negatives: takes ages and you have to schedule it so it doesn’t overrun into other parts of the weddding, your smile gets fixed and your jaw gets very tired, you repeat identical responses like ‘thank you very much/nice to see you/you too’ about 100 times as the whole thing turns into a big social meet and greet too. The less you know your guests and the more infrequently you normally see them, the more this will happen as your parents’ random friends and distant great aunties will see this as their big chance to ‘do bride and groom time’. You could ‘process’ your close friends and siblings much more quickly. Even if you do get a photo of every person it won’t always be a great or flattering one.
Positives: You know you’ve greeted everyone at your wedding properly (otherwise it rarely happens without a line-up, which are also now out of fashion), if anyone wants a memento it’s captured, you could use the photos for thank you cards which is nice and personalised, you get a photo of every person, I’ve seen Indian weddign albums that are page after page of portraits, couples, family groups, grandparents etc- they are extremely cool as a historical document recording the family- but much more for that purpose than as a wedding memento really.
I think table photos without bride and groom between courses are a good way of getting round this in a way that doesn’t eat up all your time. An Indian wedding is a multi-day event, so time is less of the essence. Christian/western weddings are short, I think even shorter in the US than the UK where we start about 1pm so you really don’t have time for more than that.
If ‘mommy dearest’ is paying, it’s hard not to make a bit of a concession to her requests, but have a private chat with your photographer and ensure they know it is not what you want to prioritise, but an obligatory few snapshots to keep your mum happy. It would be easy for her to start managing the photographer on the day and therein lies danger!
Post # 32
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
We WANTED to do a group shot of all our guests (all 32 of them). The becond the reception ended they wandered to the open bar and then it became like hearding drunk cattle…so we passed.
Post # 33
Yes, we had a 140 people at our wedding at 14 or 15 tables and have a table picture of us with each full table so we do have a shot of every guest that was there. It’s not that bad or difficult. Towards the end of the meal before the cake when everyone is still seating we did our rounds at every table, this is very typical in Asian (or Chinese style at least) wedding to go to each table to address all the guest and do a toast. I was in a wedding where there was 700 guests, 70 tables and the couple and the wedding party still went around and greeted every table… granted we didn’t really get to eat that night…
Post # 34
We didn’t do planned photos with every guest, but our photographers took a lot of candids during the reception, so we have fun photos of almost everyone (I don’t remember anyone who wasn’t captured in at least one photo by either the photographer or family). It never occurred to me outside of a few specific groups I wanted photos of (my college friends, for instance).
I did go to one wedding where each person/couple/family had their picture taken with a Polaroid at the entrance to the reception to create a photo guestbook. I guess if you have a second shooter or a talented friend, they could do something like that for your mom.
Post # 35
It’s typical in Vietnamese weddings to do a receiving line at the reception venue and have the bride and groom take photos with all the guests at that point. I’m planning to do it during the cocktail hour, but I still need to go over logistics with my wedding planner so we will have about 225-250 guests. Traditionally the photographer takes these photos, but recently people in my area have been using open air photobooths to do this so the photographer is free to take pictures elsewhere. One of the photographers I looked at even offered an open air photo booth with a “thank you card” package where instant print photos will be attached to a card to give to your guests.
Post # 36
We did a group photo at the church of everyone at the ceremony
We had a photo for everyone not in the family photos who was at the reception
Then we tasked Brother-In-Law to go around and take photos of all those who came to just the evening reception.
So we managed to get photos of everyone 🙂 We then sent them all a photo of themselves at our wedding when we sent Thank yous out.
Post # 37
Table photos themselves, even at a large wedding, are very doable. An experienced photographer or team can easily do them if that is a priority for you. It’s the coordinating of your presence in each one that may not prove to be too practical. We were in a few of our table pictures because we happened to be there in the moment.
In addition to the more formal shots, the photographers also took plenty of candids during the cocktail hour.