- 7 years ago
Well, Bees, it’s getting close to the time where I think I’m ready to form my bridal party. We’ve still got 16 months to go, but it’s getting a little uncomfortable talking to a lot of the girls I want to ask about wedding stuff and I don’t want to involve some in wedding stuff and down the road not ask them, yaknow?
Here’s the scoop: I have been 5-7 girls in mind. My MoH has known she was MoH since the minute I got engaged. Another girl who I’ve become extremely close with in the past year I have also already asked. So that’s 2 for sure.
I have 3 other friends I want to ask, though I’m not sure if all will be able to due to financial or health circumstances.
FI’s best friend is also getting asked because he really wants her to be a part of the wedding.
So that’s 6, and I think all 6 of those women would get along just fine and be great together.
I have another friend who has been there for me through a lot. She’s especially been really involved and helpful with my preliminary wedding planning, and I know she’d be fun to plan with. She’s also one of the only ones local to me.
The problem? She and my MoH are… to put it nicely unfriendly. To put it not nicely? They hate each other. I think the animosity is moreso from my MoH toward the other friend than vice versa, but still – it’s enough to make me SUPER wary.
MoH is my best friend and the reason Fiance and I got together in the first place, it isn’t an option not to have her in the bridal party. I really, really want this other girl to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, too, but I’m not sure how to go about bringing this up to MoH and basically asking, “Will you put aside your differences for the sake of my wedding?”
I’m also afraid the answer to that will be “no”.
So, I’m wondering if anyone can give me some advice on how to approach this situation? I’ve always envisioned a large wedding party because I have so many friends that I love and cherish who I want to be up there with me on that day. I know it’s likely not all of them will be able to do it, but I’d like to ask those 7 and give them the option. I just don’t want it to backfire and cause immense drama.
Thank you in advance!