(Closed) didn't do a first look and no regrets

posted 4 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 2
2513 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I didn’t do one for my wedding either and definitely no regrets here.

Congratulations on your wedding, really pleased you had a fantastic day.

Post # 3
4616 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Good for you!

We did do one, and did not regret it. The time at the reception was precious with our loved ones. Just goes to show everyone is different 🙂


Post # 4
2967 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

we didn’t do a first look either and i kind of wish that we had, only because when i walking down the aisle, my husband’s niece and brother in law were standing pretty much in the middle of the aisle, completely blocking my view of my husband. the entire time i was walking down the aisle, all i could think was, “what the hell? move out of the way!”

Post # 6
4041 posts
Honey bee

We didn’t, 37 years ago, and I wish we did, because the bridal party missed the entire cocktail hour. We also did receiving lines back then, which wasted more time. Should have had my parents (hosts) just greet people, when they arrived.

My daughter’s both did first looks. It’s amazing how much it helped with the pre-ceremony jitters as well as providing a lot of quality photo time. They walked down the aisle with big smiles on their faces and very confident, instead of nervous.

To each their own. Decisions should be made by each individual couple.

P.S. My daughters had unplugged ceremonies and requested that everyone remain seated, so that everyone could see, during the processional.

Post # 7
6527 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

flipfloppgirl1004:  we didn’t do one either!!! I think its all about preference, whether you do a first look or not, that moment when your FH sees you for the first time as a bride is so amazing. I am personally glad I didn’t do it because when I was walking down the aisle, I caught a glimpse of Darling Husband and I almost lost it. My cousin (in law) told me whatever you do, don’t look at him when you are going down the aisle, you will loose it, just look at the guests and smile. I am so glad I listened bc I am one fugly crier haha. I did however get DHs reaction to me walking down and he was so emotional! It was so sweet!

But can I ask a question, how would doing a first look have made the photographer’s life easier? 

Post # 8
2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I didn’t do one either, and I don’t regret.  It was so special seeing my husband for the first time all day walking down the aisle about to commit my life with him.  I won’t lie- it definitely gave me a bit more jitters, and it caused me to be more emotional as I walked down the aisle, but that was just because there were so many emotions, and my guests saw that and loved it.  The look on his face was absolutely priceless.  He wouldn’t have gotten that reaction in a staged first look.  Plus, there are very few first look photos that I really care for (I think the bride tapping the shoulder pic just looks dumb).  

We didn’t even miss much of the reception either.  We had an hour and a half gap and a venue change (we got married in a church). We only arrived to the venue about 15 minutes late and got to enjoy most of cocktail hour before our formal introductions.  We had a small bridal party too (3 bm and 3 gm) so that definitely made pictures easier.  

Post # 9
9698 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

That’s nice to hear! We’re def doing it the traditional way too.

Post # 10
1678 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

flipfloppgirl1004:  we also skipped it…after much discussion and deliberation!

we were forced to adhere to traditions to keep our parents happy by not staying together the night before the wedding, so i figured if we didn’t see each other at all that day until i was walking down the aisle, it woud really build some anticipation, and i was right. it was so amazing to see each other that way. i have never in my life felt that happy! not nervous, not scared. it was like we were the only two people on the planet at that moment. i loved it!

we arranged the event to flow so that while he and i were off taking pics together, the dinner line would begin – so everyone was eating and drinking by the time we got back. we went quite laid back with everything so it worked.

we did do the hand hold around a door before the ceremony which was fun!

Post # 11
5159 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

We did one and it was the perfect decision for us! We loved getting all the photos done beforehand and having that moment of reveal with just the two of us. We also attended our cocktail hour and felt able to enjoy ourselves and have a great time! 

To each their own 🙂 

Post # 12
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

flipfloppgirl1004:  One of the few requests my Fiance had was that we not see each other until I walk down the aisle. Definitely going to honour that. It is a popular thing to do, but almost every wedding I’ve been to over the past few years has done it the traditional way. I love seeing the look of surprise and excitmwnt on the grooms face, actually my favorite part of any wedding day.

Post # 13
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA

We didnt do a first look either, and I love that we didnt. His face was priceless and i love that our families got to witness it as well 🙂

Post # 14
5072 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

my emotional side is happy that we didn’t do one – I loved seeing his face when he saw me for the first time.

my practical side wishes we had.  The photographer didn’t get any good ones of just the two of us.

Post # 15
1913 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

No regrets either. Seeing his reaction at the other end of the aisle was priceless.

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