Post # 1
Hi bees. My SO and I are planning to get engaged late winter or early spring. This decision, however, didn’t stop me from getting my hopes up a little on Christmas morning. Rationally, I knew not to expect it. Nonetheless, I was a little disappointed.
Were there any other bees who were expecting a Christmas morning proposal that didn’t happen?
Post # 2
Yep, same here! I was kind of expecting it.. didn’t happen. I couldnt help but be a little disappointed. I’m sure itll happen for you soon!
Post # 3
Same here! I was expecting and hoping for a Christmas proposal. But I don’t think it’s happening though he said we would get married by end of this year 🙁
Post # 4
emmabird : Yes, I was in the same boat! Even though I rationally knew it wouldn’t happen this year, a small part of me still hoped it would happen.
winebarbiekiss : That really sucks. If he doesn’t propose by the end of the year, what would you do?
Post # 5
blissfulheart : a question I thought about a lot… but I honestly don’t know how I would or should respond. When I asked him if he still wants to marry me, he has always said yes.
We are traveling at the moment, and he rarely gets to see my family. Before this trip, I thought he would use it to ask my dad. But it doesn’t look like he would.
Post # 6
I was hoping but not expecting. We went on a Christmas light tour a few days ago but no dice. Again didn’t really think it was coming bit wanted it to. Sigh. I think it will come next christmas if I’m being realistic.
Post # 7
This same thing happened to me last year. We had talked about a timeline and it seemed like the agreed date was the near the end of 2015 so I was expecting a Christmas or NYE proposal. I was really disappointed when that didn’t happen especially when you see all the social media announcements about other couples getting engaged. But it turned out he had planned the proposal for Valentine’s Day 2016. So sometimes there is a bit more waiting than expected but don’t give up hope! Especially if you have already discussed a timeline and you haven’t passed the final deadline yet. Best of luck!!!
Post # 8
I actually broke up with my SO late October, due to some issues
we spent several weeks apart before he made a grand gesture, we had major conversations, and decided to try again.
Things have been much better, and during one such conversation, I found out he was going to propose at Christmas
Obviously that didnt happen, but he is constantly telling me hes going to marry me, even looked at rings a bit, telling me it’ll be “soon”
I know we will be married by Sept, as he is active duty Navy, and transferring. I told him I wouldnt leave with him unless we were married.
But I am struggling with talking about the engagement. He is always bringing it up, “I’m going to marry you” etc
but if I bring it up, he just looks annoyed. He got really sad/annoyed over Christmas because we had several people asking us when we were getting engaged, and he was disappointed over his cancelled plans.
He doesnt even have the ring yet though, so I dont know why he is so bothered by it.
I am frustrated that he constantly brings it up, but makes me feel like a nuisance if I do.
Post # 9
yeri85 : That is so cute! I sometimes have these small irrational hopes but I pretty much know exactly when it is going to happen just based on how much money we have left to save for the ring :). I am so happy you got your Valentine’s day proposal. Our anniversary is very early February so Valentine’s day is special for us too as during that time we had both went from dreading the date to happily anticipating it. But I’m pretty sure it’s all going down in March, April or May… but that probably won’t stop me from getting my hopes up in Feb 😉
Post # 10
msaintx : I’m sorry. It really sounds like he is giving mixed signals. perhaps you need to have a talk with him and ask if he is having doubts. Going from having a recent break-up to deciding on a life-time commitment seems like it might be troubling him a little. Communication is key.
Post # 11
Yeah I was kinda hoping for a Xmas proposal but it didn’t happen so was a little disappointed. I don’t even know if my SO has a ring for me yet 🙁
Post # 12
I have 2 friends who went on romantic trips over Xmas and did not come back engaged- I found that really surprising. But I didn’t discuss it with them bc it’s none ofmy business lol
Post # 13
I was hoping it’ll happen as was in line with our timeline (and all the announcements didnt help)! while at the time was hoping it wont happen as i hate hate holiday proposals. to me a proposal should be a special day on its own and not piggy back of another celebartion. i know its coming soon and am so relieved the holidays are finally over!
Post # 14
My SO pretty much said he was planning to buy my ring during a 2 month sale that ended January 1st (he asked me in early November when it ended and when I told him he said excellent). I had secretly hoped he would propose before Christmas so I could share the news in person when visiting family over the holidays, but it didn’t happen. We are going on a trip in April so maybe it will happen then, but I was really hoping to be engaged by the end of 2016 as I would like to plan a Fall 2017 wedding…fingers crossed he surprises me before our trip! haha