(Closed) Didn’t I try to tell you all that she was a big fat meanie? :(

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@lisa105: She may be rough around the edges but she raised the man you love so she can’t be all bad.

While what you said was great, I disagree with that statement in particular. You’d be surprised how messed up some of the childhoods can be. Parents being the #1 cause of it. Yet some people grow up and learn from OTHERS in their environment what is right from wrong. And similarly learn from their parents what NOT to do. I wouldn’t call that ‘raising’ the child. After a certain age, kids do develop the ability to think, act, and react for themselves.

Post # 34
276 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011


I am so sorry about your loss.  I understand about the loss of a loved one around the holidays.  It sounds like you have gotten good advice today from the above posters already.  But I will say this:  You are just as important as his mother, and you are right by letting your man speak to his mother, and let him deal with her.  Continue with your intended plans, and she’s a big girl…she will be okay, and get over it.  Blessings to you babe….(*hugs*)

Post # 36
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

@ItalianLady:  So sorry for your loss!

MILs can be so hard to handle! I don’t particularly want to be my MIL’s best friend either, but she’s not as insensitive as yours. If she doesn’t like something we’re doing, she’ll smile and tell us it’s okay to our face then talk behind our backs to all her sisters and brothers and it would somehow get back to us. She even told us that she didn’t feel highlighted enough at our wedding. The drama. So i really feel for you and can relate!

Post # 38
620 posts
Busy bee

Sorry about the loss of your mom.

Take these challenges as simple problems that you have to problem solve.  It is nice you and your husband are working as a team.  In the end, this will strenghthen your marriage.  Whenever one of these problems come up, just chuckle as you solve them.

Why not visit your Mother-In-Law on Christmas eve but just take both Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law out to eat at a restaurant.  This way she doesn’t have to cook anything.  More pricey…yes…but problem solved.

If she says no…you guys can see them some other time between X-mas and New Years.


Post # 39
803 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010



take her out back and shoot her. 






(i suppose that was a tad extreem)

Post # 41
3761 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@ItalianLady: Good job for sticking to your guns on showing them the boundry but still respecting them. 

Post # 42
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@ItalianLady: If I were you, I’d start practicing some comebacks now! I like to alternate between ones that are sweet on the surface but direct underneath, and ones that I just personally think are hilarious.

Good luck! Take a flask and hide it in your purse for bathroom trips. 🙂

Post # 44
6392 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

So I arrived at this thread kinda late, but I have this great image of you bringing over a fast food bag with chicken nuggets in one hand a about five bottles of liquor in the other. Merry Christmas, huh? 🙂

I’m sorry that she’s making what’s already horribly difficult for you even worse. If she gets to you too much, just spill something on her so she’ll have to leave the room for awhile to change :).

Post # 45
620 posts
Busy bee


lol …better bring some good finger foods.  You must admit not feeling there would be time to cook may have been a legitimate issue.  It is just something that required some problem solving.  Had you taken that out of the equation and she made up something else then you would have known she was up to something. 

Of course they may say something rude because it doesn’t sound like you all are on good terms.  I say kill ’em with charm.  Try to be sincere.  Nobody likes a phony.  Take this as a challenge.  You can have fun with it.  There will be situations like this where the two of you will have to have a united front and tackle a challenge with charm.  It’s good practice.

My advice on Operation Chistmas Eve:

1. Keep the united front

2. Kill ’em with genuine charm (but not phoniness)

3. Bring some kick ass finger foods and even ask if they would like you to bring anything else.

4. Get each of them a cool Christmas present (not 1 present for both…unless it is something fierce like a new TV…lol).

5. Try to have fun

Should you choose to accept this mission and get caught we will disavow any knowlege of your existance.  lol


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