Post # 47
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Busy bee
@ItalianLady:
I think the 3 main goals you have are
1. Keep a united front with your husband (mess up and you lose)
2. Keep your pride/dignity (mess up and you lose)
3. Don’t tear yourself up on the inside (mess up and you lose)
There is nothing that says forgiveness hurts any of these 3.
If you get too dirty, you show that you are letting it beat you down and that takes away some dignity.
If it were me, I would devise a plan to just look at my SO and smile whenever she says or does anything appropriate. That’s enough to win. You keep it classy, the two of you know and are on the same page and the clueless woman misses the target.
I’m telling you this is practice…you will face tougher. It is a practice of problem solving, charm application and forgiveness…
Post # 48
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Busy bee
@ItalianLady:
Are you going to get her a cool gift? (Not a broom to be used for transportation).
Post # 49
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Busy bee
@Socrates: The more you ask me loaded questions, the more I am biting my tongue, but this Italian can’t take it anymore.
No. No cool gift. She got a very beautiful gift last year and it’s gathering dust. I have no idea what hubby wants to get her, but he has a $70 limit.
Post # 50
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Busy bee
@ItalianLady:
Oh…I meant from the 2 of you together anyway…lol He should put your name on it. It is Christmas afterall…lol So you are going to get her something.
Post # 51
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Busy bee
@Socrates: Um, no, I’m not. Whatever he gets her, he can put my name on it.
Post # 52
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Busy bee
@ItalianLady:
Well that’s what I mean. Of course he should put your name on it. It would be awkward otherwise. lol I wasn’t asking if you were getting her something apart from your husband.
Post # 53
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Busy bee
@Socrates: Oh. Well you can be confusing sometimes ! 🙂
Post # 54
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Busy bee
@ItalianLady:
lol I should have said y’all instead of you…lol
Post # 55
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Busy bee
@ItalianLady:
Do they already have a nice HDTV?
Post # 56
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Busy bee
@Socrates: You mean a flat screen tv. yes, now that you mention it, they bought that themselves with the wedding money they were GOING to give us but changed their minds
And I told you the budget for them is 70 bucks, lol
Post # 57
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Busy bee
@ItalianLady:
lol You are funny. OK…I was thinking that would be a kick ass peace offering gift that would let all bye gones be bye gones…lol
If they have a blueray player that is VUDU capable, how about $100 credit on that so they can watch 20 HD movies at their choosing…that would be a nice gift. They would remember you with each free movie.
Post # 58
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Buzzing bee
can someone explain to be the difference between take out and finger foods? Just to piss her off I’d pick up take out on the way to their home- you said your budget for them was 70 bucks, a nice dinner in with their children.
Post # 59
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Bumble bee
Oh my goodness I am so sorry!! My brother has a Mother-In-Law that would make my hair go white in a month, and it has lead me to believe that SOME moms have no clue that the world doesn’t absolutely REVOLVE around them… That said, keep your united front! Be strong and DONT GIVE IN! If you do she will expect that you will give in the time after that and the time after that and the time after that…
Basically treat her like you would a 2 year old. Its the same process of learning boundaries, and its all new, so if she cries and yells: “BUT I WANT IT!!!” you calmly say “I’m sorry, but that isn’t possible, but we can figure something else out” Thank goodness you have such a great hubby on your side 🙂 That is wonderful!
Post # 60
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Busy bee
She sounds like a real pain in the @#$%! This is even harder for you because you’ve lost your own mother 🙁
Use your intellect and don’t let her get to you. Let her stupidity bounce off you and then discuss it with your girlfriends over lunch.
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