(Closed) Didn’t meet venue minimum, is it tacky to invite others now?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I don’t know if you’re venue allows it, but I know some places have a minimum that you have to meet, but rather than simply adding more people to meet the minimum amount you need to spend, you can upgrade things, like alcohol or food. I’d try looking into that as an option before inviting extra people.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@nskillet:

I would just say that you found some wiggle room and would your guest like to bring a +1? Don’t mention it’s because you need 10 more people, just make it sound like you are being extra accommodating for them to bring a date. LOL.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I had the same issue – and I was literally inviting people I would have never though to invite – just do it – if they want to come they will – if they are offended by being “B” list then oh well – you are paying for those plates so you mine as well try!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I agree with the others just invite them. If they dont want to come they wont.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

We had the same thing happen. 10 people in hubs family we thought were coming ended up not being able to make the trip, so we asked some friends a week before the wedding if they wanted to go. Some had already made plans, but others were happy they could come. We had told those people early on that we wanted to invite them, but wanted to make sure we had the room for family first. They were totally understanding about it, and I don’t think anyone thought badly of us for it.  Weddings are expensive, and in our case we had no minimums, but we had to make sure that we didn’t go over our budget for food so we could only invite x amount of people

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@nskillet:

Oh hmmm. Well, can your vendors count as guests? It’s in our photographers’ contract that she and her assistant be provided food and drink at the reception (understandably) so I am counting them as two guests since I have to pay for their heads. Invite the officiant too, and count your coordinator if you’re having one as a guest, and any other vendor you might be close with! That could fill in some numbers.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think it’s fine. I’ve been invited to several weddings this way and sometimes attend.

But I had this problem too and instead of inviting more people we just upgraded the food.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Our vendor told us that we could “pad our guest list” with other vendors, you should include your officiant and SO, Musicians, photographers etc. That gave us about 10 extra people, and if not, come up with a b-list.  Ive heard of plenty of people doing a & b lists and as they got nos from the a-list then would invite someone from the b-list… its just how it has to be… weddings are far to expensive these days to be inviting every person you know.. I dont think anyone will be offended especially if they are friends etc. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee

Do you have work friends you could invite? Maybe a neighbor or two?

I feel like most people would be ok with a last minute invite. It’s common knowledge that weddings are expensive and you can’t invite everyone you want to. So to be considered late in the game is almost an honor, especially if you’re honest about it. “Hey, I wanted to invite you, but we didn’t think we had room. Turns out we do. yay!”

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m in the same boat. I upgraded our liquor and invited a few more guests just last week. They were totally understanding as to why I was asking them last minute and were excited to be invited now. Unfortunately, we are still under budget…I’m discussing options with our coordinator.

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