- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
I’ve got a best friend (let’s call him Dave), that I’ve known for 10 years. We were best friends in high school. Pretty much from the day we met, we connected with each other incredibly quickly – same interests, same sense of humour, same beliefs, same values, same everything.
We’ve been there for each other for many years – when he was escaping from an abusive boyfriend, he lived with me for a year. I supported him financially and emotionally. When I was dealing with PTSD, he was there for me, supporting me as much as he possibly could. We always joked that if either of us ever got married we would be each others’ groomsman/bridesmaid.
Over the past few years, he’s been harder and harder to communicate with. I might have a week where he’ll talk with me nonstop – texts, facebook, phone calls, etc. then I won’t hear a word for months! Our other friend has given up entirely on trying to contact him.When I got engaged, he was one of the first people I told, and he was so excited. The first words out of his mouth were “Can I still be a bridesmaid?” I was so happy to have him as a bridesmaid, and he seemed genuinely excited about it. But I haven’t spoken to him properly since September. I’ve been pushing him for a few months now to a) let us know his measurements so we can order him a suit and, b) let us know his address so we can send him his wedding invitation. We’re not hearing anything back….
I’ve been texting, trying to call, facebook (wall and private messages). Nothing. Even though I can see he’s been as active on facebook as ever. My sister and I had arranged to go where he lives to check out dresses for my sister and I suggested Dave come to the shop and get measured up for a suit while we’re in the area. He agreed, but we haven’t heard from him for weeks since then. According to facebook, he’s off to a different city for the weekend, so I guess he’s not seeing us.
Anyway, long story short, I’m trying to figure out how to handle this with regards to wedding stuff. We’re only a month and a half out from the wedding, so it’s almost too late for him to get a suit anyway, but I just want him to come to the wedding. It’s an important event and I would love to share it with him, not to mention my family would love to see him again. I don’t care if he shows up wearing a bloody chicken suit – as long as he’s there!