Post # 1
So first of all, I realize baby showers can be a touchy subject. Many people see them as gift grabby, and I totally understand. However, in my location and social circle baby showers are quite common and expected. I’ve had many friends and family members already ask about when I’m going to have mine.
So here’s my situation…
I am 23 weeks pregnant with my first. My aunt has graciously offered to throw a baby shower for me and I accepted. All of my family members are living within about 20-30 minutes of me and should have no problem attending. All of DH’s family (except his mom and dad) live in the same area about 3-4 hours away from us. I am pretty close to his family so I was going to invite them all, but realistically only expect a couple of them to be able to make the drive. Well the other day SIL asked me if anyone was throwing me a shower and I told her my aunt was. She said to let her know if that falls through because she would like to throw a shower for me. I told her I appreciated it and I’d let her know. After that conversation I started thinking about it. Would it be rude to have TWO showers if they were in two different locations? It wouldn’t be the same people attending both. Partly I would like to do it because I would really love to see that side of the family and partly it’s because this will be SIL’s first niece/nephew and I know she is extremely excited to be an aunt. I’m not someone who really wants to be in the spotlight and I would hate it if people thought I was being greedy by having two showers, but I would really love to be able to include all of my loved ones.
In this situation do you think it would be acceptable to have two? Or should I just have the one here in town and invite the out-of-towners and just expect that most won’t be able to come?
Post # 3
It’s not rude to have two showers if more than one person offers, and the guest list is not the same.
I am having a friend shower and a family shower, there are simply too many people to ask one person to host. But, I did not ask anyone to host a shower for me it was offered.f
Post # 4
I will be having two showers because of similar reasons.
I will have one shower locally with my family and friends.
The other shower will actually be a joint baby shower with my sister-in-law who is two weeks ahead of me, and that will be with our Husbands’ side of the family. That way they won’t have to travel twice for each of us.
Post # 5
you are completely fine to have 2 showers.
2 different locations, 2 different guest lists, etc.
Post # 6
I concur, two showers are fine as long as guest lists aren’t duplicated. I am having a work shower and a friends/family shower. When I was engaged, I actually ended up with three bridal showers (different cities/hosts/guests).
Post # 7
I agree, as long as your not inviting the same people twice I think it’s Fine. We’ve had 3 (although I didn’t want any) because of different locations and circles of friends. Have fun!
Post # 8
@swanks4tw: I don’t see anything wrong if the individuals offered.
I had three bridal showers (a lot of people, too many for one) and will be having at least two baby showers due to location. Sometimes it can’t be helped.
Post # 9
I had two showers for the exact same reason. It’s totally cool. I really don’t get people that think baby showers are tacky or gift-grabby. Maybe for a second or subsequent child if they are close in age to the first but even then, how is celebrating a new baby ever a bad thing or tacky. Jealous I say!
My only concern would be how you could bring it up with your SIL. She said to let her know if the other shower falls through and you had the idea afterwards. If you are close with her, I think it would be ok to mention it but this is where things could be seen as “iffy”. I mean I wouldn’t judge you, I’d be thrilled so I’m just bringing this up as an FYI. Congrats and enjoy your shower(s!!), lol
Post # 10
I had two. My mom and grandma hosted one, and Mother-In-Law hosted another one. Different locations, different guests 🙂
Post # 11
A girl I used to work with had three! One for local family, one for friends, and then one out of town with other family. It wasn’t her idea, but it ended up that way.
Post # 12
I will be having two: One in GA and one in Ontario!
Post # 13
Thanks ladies! That’s kinda what I was thinking but I didn’t know if this was something people did or not. I’ve never been one to be offended at a baby shower invite though, and I’ve just recently started to notice that some people are.
I was wondering that as well. I think I’ll just call her back and say “Ya know, I was thinking about your offer and I would really love to have a shower in yourcity
so we could celebrate with that side of the family.” or something like that. She’s so excited, keeps talking about how she’s going to make sure she’s the favorite aunt, I think she’d really like to do it.
Post # 14
@swanks4tw: You can have as many shower as people are willing to host. I don’t think it’s unheard of to have two (one for each side, with potentially a few overlapping guests like your mom and MIL) especially when the families are not in the same geographic location.
Post # 15
I won’t have two, because everyone I’d want there lives in the same relative area. But in your situation, I think it would be fine, as long as the guest lists don’t overlap (your mother an Mother-In-Law would make sense to be on both of course).
Post # 16
Totally fine–As long as the guest lists don’t overlap!