Post # 1
I became engaged last year… and since then I have joined a gym, quit, joined a jazzercise class, can hardly make time for that… and I am the same size, if not bigger than before. I wanted to slim down a little bit for the wedding but here I am… almost 3 months away, and I feel like unless I starve myself I won’t look anywhere near what I wanted to.
Why was I so lazy for a YEAR!?!
Post # 3
This is very common.
Wedding planning is stressful and takes a lot of time so if fitting in your workouts into your normal workouts is challenging, doing it while planning a wedding is even more challenging.
And stress does crazy things to our metabolisms.
Don’t let it bother you and remember that your future Husband loves you just the way you are!!!
Post # 4
@FutureLeep9: I feel exactly the same. I joined a new gym a year ago, lost weight, gained weight, lost weight and gained some back. And of course my wedding is going to be here in just days now. At first I was mad at myself. But–I think it’s really important to feel beautiful about who you are always. And my regular size is who my fiance fell in love with, its who I am. I would love to be 20 pounds lighter–don’t get me wrong but losing weight isn’t everything. I use to get really depressed when I’d feel fat at my normal weight but there is no sense in that because life happens and weight is so unimportant (unless of course it effects your health).
Don’t feel like you failed. Everyone goes off their diets. For me, I couldn’t find the motivation and I’ve been stressed. But when I was on the south beach diet that worked quickly but it was just really hard for me to stick to.
Post # 5
You are right… I guess, I don’t really care about how I fit into the dress and look to everyone else… what’s weird is that I’m more concerned about how I’ll look in pictures because those are FOREVER…
AND it doesn’t help that over the course of our engagement, my fiance’s sister has shed like 30 pounds (which, hey GREAT for her)… but it’s just aggrivating because we do the same job yet she finds the time and motivation to lose weight…
I need to say no to candy too… man, I’m a snacker… but thank you Future Mrs.Martin!
Post # 6
@FutureLeep9:! Completely understand! I feel like an epic failure. I realize that while I am trying to plan a wedding was not the time to try for major weight loss but maintence would have been nice. During my year of wedding planning I started a new job and began grad school. Someone shoot me now! How did I ever think I was going to lose the weight. The more upset I get about it the more weight I put on. It seems to be a never ending battle.I could give you the standard answer that you should be happy marrying the man of your dreams and he loves you just the way you are. If that cheers you up great. If you want more from me I’m not sure what to say except I feel you pain sister cause I’m in the same boat. I don’t think there is an easy answer to our problem.
Post # 7
@Heatherloveskenny: It is comforting to know that I’m not alone in this diet fiasco. I’m sure you will look great for your wedding… and watch… when our special days come, I have a feeling we won’t be thinking about weight… but rather, if we can find time in socializing with guests to get a piece of cake! 🙂
But I’m still freaking out, hahaha, go me.
Post # 8
@Brittlov: I’ll send you salads, you send me salads 😉
Post # 9
Ok, 2 things:
First, let go of the past. Don’t beat yourself up over what you have or haven’t done till now. You still have a long time before your wedding, so all is not lost.
Second, don’t obsess about the weight loss. Try to just focus on eating food that makes you feel good and using your body in a way that makes you feel good. Ok, that sounds super vague and kinda hokey, I realize… what I mean is, if I eat a half gallon of ice cream (I have done this!) I feel sick. If I eat a normal portion of something healthy, I feel great. If I sit at my office desk all day and do nothing else, I feel cooped up and crazed. If I go for a long run, I feel great. Focus on making each day FEEL really good, and not on losing weight, and you’ll find that your body goes to where it wants to be.
Post # 10
Don’t starve yourself, it won’t work. I’m a small girl and I have been able to lose weight on a plan like this:
Breakfast: 1 starch + 1 small serving of healthy fat (oatmeal + 2 tsp flaxseeds or 10 nuts)
Snack: veggies of your choice, 2 tsp peanut butter
Lunch: big salad with 4 oz meat/tofu/fish (grilled, no breading), tbsp of olive oil and vinegar (get it on the side, put it on yourself)
Snack: plain greek yogurt (0%) with splenda OR a lowfat plain yogurt of another brand
Dinner: steamed or grilled veggies, 4 oz lean protein, side salad with EVOO and vinegar
Dessert: 1 skinny cow bar OR a 100 cals worth of pretzels
You have to be patient but in 3 months you’ll be fine if you can stick to something like this. An RD helped me put this together before figure skating competitions back (I am not an RD) in high school and it still works for me today.
Don’t freak out and don’t weigh yourself every day- stress makes it worse. Aim for 3 days per week of moderate to intense exercise. I actually find that when I’m training for a race (I’m a runner) or I’m taking a lot of toning classes, the scale budges less, so if its sheer poundage you’re after…moderation moderation moderation.
Best of luck!