Post # 1
Our guests have so many food allergies and intolerances I’m not quite sure what to do with the cake! So far we have:
- gluten-free (with real coeliac so it’s not just a mild intolerance)
- dairy-free (some lactose intolerance, some I think actual milk allergy)
- nut-free (nut allergy)
One person is dairy-free, nut-free and soy-free. There are other combinations of food intolerances but at most 2 of the above.
And… my wedding day is also my birthday, and personally I don’t like sugary food. I won’t be eating it if it’s a cake, so I was thinking maybe I should have a pie. Or a quiche. Or something savoury that I can put a candle on for my birthday part. But I’m happy to get a sweet cake if everyone else would eat it.
Any advice, bees?
Post # 2
Could u do a combination of mini pies and cupcakes if u don’t like cake. Also that way u could just get a few select ones for the people with allergies eg dairy free or gluten free.
Post # 3
vickie2018 : i have vegan and celiac so ill be doing a regular cake with some gf cupcakes. Then ill be picking up a couple of sweet alternatives from a local vegan bakery. I don’t think you’ll be able to accommodate everyone with one option so maybe do what you want and offer an alternative for specific guests?
Post # 4
People whose diets are that restricted need to provide their own food or eat before they come. Providing a vegetarian option is one thing; coming up with eight special diets is something else entirely.
Post # 5
For the actual dairy allergy if you are accommodating it keep butter in mind. That is dairy and can be bad for a true allergy.
We accomodated soy, nuts and gluten and dairy (but not the cake as I’m allergic to many substitutes).
For the meal for example we had a special one prepared for out celiac guest with no soy no dairy.
Post # 6
cassandra7 : Agree! Especially when it comes to something like a cake, which is not a main meal or necessary to eat!
Post # 7
vickie2018 : OK so ideas if the nut allergic person can have coconut that’s a good base.
Post # 8
Desserts that cover all of the above allergies:
– some high quality dark chocolate
– hard candy
Unfortunately as for more bakery-like desserts gluten, dairy, and nut free are rather difficult to do together. For kids Rice krispie treats works well (can get vegan marshmallows) but im gonna go out on a limb and assume that’s not what you had in mind.
If I were you I’d do a lemon or chocolate sorbetto (talenti brand should cover all the listed allergies) with fresh berries. Simple but still an acceptable dessert your guests with food allergies will likely enjoy and really appreciate you thought of them.
I will say.. I did not provide a dessert option for my two gluten free guests. I actually agree with PPs that what’s important is everyone can eat the meal. But that said, it’s great you want to have a sweet treat for them. 🙂
Post # 9
sweatergal007 : def.! If coconut is on the table that opens things up a lot. From whipped coconut cream to key lime pie in a pie crust made of coconut shavings and the filling made of avocado and like sort of thing (it’s a raw food dessert thing with recipes all over) to coconut based ice cream.
Post # 10
Sorbet is a great idea as someone mentioned above. I also think doing small mini cakes/pies/quiches is a good plan to cover the different bases.
Also in response to the people posting above that those with intolerances “can bring their own food” it is rather rude and uncharitable to invite people to your wedding (ie. host them) and then not cater for them.
Post # 11
As someone with a lot of food intilerances, I’ll say that I never expect the cake to be something I can eat. Provide them meals, and I think they’ll be ok.
That said, the mini pies/cakes idea is great!
Post # 12
Since you don’t have a huge sweet tooth, what about more of a dessert table? That could make it easier to provide different options. That said, you may also have to keep in mind how sensitive the allergies are to determine how to handle as bakeries that also make regular desserts can’t guarantee there will be no cross contamination even if the desserts themselves aren’t made with the above ingredients.
Post # 13
I will add, while I can’t think of a dessert that naturally answers all of those dietary restrictions there are some things like flourless chocolate cake and macarons that solve for some of them while being things other guests would likely enjoy. I used to bake for co-workers (including some with allergies) and those were my go-to’s as things everyone liked. I’ve yet to find a dessert with a gluten free flour mix that I’d eat as someone who isn’t gluten intolerant but there are some things that are naturally gluten free that are quite yummy.
Post # 14
We had a 3 tier/3 flavoured cake that EVERYONE could eat – the whole thing was dairy, soy & nut free, and the middle tier was also gluten free.
We had it presented ‘semi-naked’ with fresh berries and the whole thing was sliced up and served for dessert. There were no left-overs!
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2025 - City, State
I recommend serving a standard dessert (cake, pie, cookies, whatever) alongside a selection of fruit. Sorbet would also be a nice option – but make sure there’s plenty for everyone, not just the people with dietary restrictions.