- 5 years ago
OK- I had a tough “waiting” day yesterday, and it led me to this board and all my posts over the last 24 hours. I’ve been thinking and thinking about it, and I think I may come up with a different approach.
I 80% expected to be engaged this Christmas, and, to much disappointment, it did not happen. Two weeks before, we had a big talk, I kind of well- freaked out – and he told me to not worry, be patient, its coming…blah blah blah. He was pretty upset with me bringing it up and it felt like maybe I had “ruined” it for him.
So I was thinking today…maybe I will tell him I want to be engaged by my 30th birthday? That gives him just under 2 full years to do it so it may feel like the pressure is off a bit and he won’t be freaking out. I know he will agree to it, and it will give me a bit of comfort knowing not to expect it right away but at the same time giving me some type of control over the situation. My only concern is he will actually wait until my 30th birthday!
Part of me also hopes that if he feels the pressure is off…he may do it sooner to surprise me? Gah…maybe I’m already botching my plan! Ha.
What do you guys think?