(Closed) DIFFERENT ETHNICITIES: taking, hyphenating your FI's last name?

posted 6 years ago in Intercultural
  • poll: My FI and I are different ethnicities and I will be:
    TAKING his name. : (69 votes)
    59 %
    KEEPING my name. : (25 votes)
    21 %
    HYPHENATING both names. : (15 votes)
    13 %
    OTHER _____ : (8 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
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    703 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    im mostly italian with bit of german.. my fiance is mostly mexican with a bit of japanese and hawaiian. i will be taking his name (although it isnt even close to being ethnic).. and moving my name (which is more ethnic than his) to have a second middle name.

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I am Welsh, Polish and German.  Husband’s Hungarian/Mexican/Native American with a very common hispanic last name.  I’m white as all eff and I took the name.  Yeah, I get a lot of weird looks, but oh well.

    Post # 5
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    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I’m taking his…although we are different ethnicities, our last names are similar funny enough. 

    Post # 6
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    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I thought about hyphenating but my friends with punctuation in their last names said it’s sometimes a PITA. So with that in mind, I dropped my middle name, which I didn’t like anyway, moved my maiden name to the middle name slot and then took his last name.

    So it is First Name Maiden Name Last Name. If I can, I put both names down (e.g. Facebook, legal documents) but if it’s not a big deal either way (e.g. magazine orders), I’ll put my first name and my new last name only.

    We don’t have kids right now but when we do, we will go with just his last name.

    Post # 7
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    1073 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m African-American and my Fiance is White. I will be taking his last name. However, lately I’ve been thinking about making my maiden name my middle name. We shall see! πŸ™‚

    Post # 8
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    8444 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    My Fiance is Italian/Polish and I’m Chinese.  I’m totally taking his name and getting rid of my hard-to-spell name.  Soooo looking forward to the change lol.

     

    Post # 9
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    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I acidentally voted as keeping my name! I am Black and my Fiance is Polish/Hungarian and I will be taking his Polish last name πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
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    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’m Swedish, FI’s Canadian but with a Slovak last name. Since mine is rather boring, I’ll go with his – even though I apparently don’t pronounce it exactly right. πŸ™‚

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m suuuuuuper white and my fiancé is half Japanese… So he has a super amazing Japanese last name that I’m definitely taking! My last name is currently similar to Smith or Johnson… So I can’t wait to have a beautiful, meaningful name. His mom has warned me that people will be confused. I’m a blonde haired, blue eyed Austrian with a Japanese name πŸ™‚ I am so pumped! 

    Post # 12
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    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Making my middle name my last name and taking his last name  …. Im black and he’s white πŸ™‚ 

    Post # 13
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    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wanted to revert to my maiden name (I was married before and still have my ex’s last name) but my Fiance insists that I have to take his last name. It is hard for me because I have kids with my ex and now our last names will not match plus I have difficulty pronouncing my FI’s last name. *sigh*

    Post # 14
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    2120 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    my name is m— J— De S—- H—. thats four names. my mother is brazilian so i have her maiden name for my (what they call ) second middle name. My dad was an only child. his dad the only boy. and even though i have a brother and sister. i am my dads only child. so im the last. H—-. so what do i do. plus i wanted to keep my brazilian tradition. FINALLY i decided that a rose is a rose no matter what you call it. so my name will be m— J— De S—- HIS NAME. no hyphen though.

    we have also decided that our children (if we have any) will have four names also. My last name will also be their second middle name. no hyphen. if we had more than one boy i wanted to give me my surname to pass along. but idk we will see when we cross that bridge.

    when i was young i dreamed about having his last name but now i feel kinda sad about it. also since im the last of my surname.

    Post # 15
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    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m Chinese and I’m moving last name to middle name and taking his German last name, lol. The funny thing is that I have a Spanish first name which throws the whole thing off. oh well!

    Post # 16
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    678 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Love seeing all these blended couples πŸ™‚ I have a Polish last name but I have zero attachment to it, so I am super excited to be taking my SO’s Turkish last name. I have pretty much “adopted” his culture over the 6.5 years we have been together so having his name will be the icing on the cake so to speak.

    I just joked with someone at work today however that my name will be going from bad to worse in terms of pronouncability for most people in the US πŸ™‚

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