(Closed) different ideas about what a ring should cost….

posted 10 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How much do you think an engagement ring should cost?




    He can tie a string around my finger...or whatever he can comfortably afford

  • Post # 32
    1509 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think its all about what he can afford to pay for in cash while still leaving ample money in savings.

    Post # 33
    18628 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think you should consider going ring shopping with him to show him rings that you like which are under $5k like you suggested.  You can get really good quality diamonds for less than that, they just won’t be 3 carats.

    Post # 35
    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    I think my H spend about 2K on mine, and that was the upper limit to what I would have accepted. I could not imagine going into debt over a ring. I feel the same about a wedding. My parents were generous enough to pay for our wedding (and they could afford it without any problem), but if we had to pay for the wedding, or if the money would have made a difference to my parents, we would have gotten married at City Hall and had a nice dinner. I just wouldn’t want to start the marriage off knowing that we were already behind just because of the wedding/ring.

    Post # 36
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Have you considered that maybe that 3 carat diamond of your friend’s may be a fake?  Who really spends $50,000 on a diamond anymore unless you’re getting married to Chelsea?

    Post # 37
    228 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I agree with miss_qween_bee, everytime i see a big ring now i think that its moissanite or a white sapphire!  I wish I had known about those options before I got engaged!  Moissanites and white sapphires are beautiful stones for a fraction of the price of a diamond!  

    I want to clarify that in no way do I consider moissanites or white sapphires fake, they are real stones in their own right and I would be honored to have one! 

    Post # 39
    228 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I agree, a $50k ring is a little ridiculous…but if they can afford it who are we to judge?  My FH wont tell me what he spent on my ring, its 1.61 total carats a 3 stone round with diamonds 3/4ths of the way around the band.  I think the center stone is 3/4 ct…

    Basically just get whatever you can afford and upgrade later if you want.  Thats what I plan to do!  (I’d really love a 1.5ct center stone!)

    Post # 41
    510 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    We both talked about the ring and what I wanted, along with what the budget for the ring. He needed a new car, and I didn’t want to feel guilty for getting a ring that would suck up monthly payments and not leave enough for a car. In the end, I’m happy with my choice, it’s a not a spotlight or huge attention grabber, but it’s me. I’ll admit when he gave me my ring, I was a little disappointed in the size of the middle diamond (it’s a halo setting, with a ring of stones around it), but it’s grown on me. The big thing was quality over quantity, so I know I have a great diamond. Now if he wants to upgrade in 5 or 10 years, I wouldn’t say no! But I’m happy, because I got a beautiful ring, and we’re within our means. No 50K ring for me, that’s just ridiculous!

    Post # 42
    41 posts
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I am not sure the exact price of my ring, but I think it is around the £600 mark (so about $1000).  I absolutely adore it and I would not have been comfortable if my fiance and spent anymore than that (and I would have been just as happy if he spent less).  I think it depends what is important for you in your ring.  Mine is very simple, one diamond, and it will last my lifetime and beyond.  I could not ask for any more from my ring and so I do not see why he should have spent any more (plus, we would rather spend our money – and it will be ‘our’ money from now on – on things like a house and our future).  He knew I wanted to feel comfortable wearing whatever ring he got me and with something worth £25,000 I would have been walking around like a petrified bunny all the time.  I am scared enough of damaging/losing the one I have now!

    Post # 43
    1317 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I voted for a string. I think a ring should be something you’re both confortable with and shouldn’t be influenced by others — but it’s incredibly hard to not let anyone influence you!

    I personally didn’t get a ring. We knew we wanted to be together forever and eventually have a family. We decided to get married during a walk in the forest and finalized the date while on the couch watching TV! (Though I admit, I was totally hinting him weeks beforehand).

    Engagement rings here are the opposite of what we have in the States – their engagement ring looks like a plain wedding band, and the bling comes after: on the wedding ring (but it’s usually little diamonds, and not a solitaire).

    I didn’t want to wear 2 rings, and I definitely didn’t want a typical solitaire engagement ring. I had to make it clear that I didn’t want it. We can afford it, but I wouldn’t feel comfortable with him spending so much on a ring, even if it’s supposed to symbolise our love. To me it’s just a symbol and I would have never worn “the rock” and would only wear the band. I would much rather him spend that money into our house and honeymoon. All I want is a very thin, carved ring that almost looks antique.

    It’s all working itself out pretty well! Smile We just bought a large, beautiful house in what turned out to be our dream location! We’re looking forward to a quiet, very private ceremony in a small pavillion on a lake where he used to play as a child, and then an awesome honeymoon where we can just relax, eat, and do nothing! And last night, I think I found finally found the place that’ll make my wedding ring! Hopefully the filling-in in the house will come soon after!

    It sounds like your bf is planning some nice things for you! A big-o bling ring or not, it definitely seems like the love is there. I can’t wait to hear how your story continues!

    Post # 44
    1396 posts
    Bumble bee

    Personally I would LOVE a huge rock but I’m perfectly comfortable with whatever he can afford. He seems to think I need at least 2 carats and that’s fine, but if he insists on doing a 2 carat route, then I’d like to get my band first and the bling later. There’s no way to budget that for us right now and it seems silly to go broke for a rock.

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