(Closed) Different love languages

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
2602 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m very wordy. I write him notes and ridiculously cheesy things in cards and tell him all sorts of things. Meanwhile, he’s an action person.

He has learned to say and write more things and to tell me he loves me often. I do things for him that I know he would like.

For instance, when I realize I have been excessively wordy and not very action-y, I’ll surprise him when he gets home from work with his favorite video game or show loaded up on the computer, a hot plate of food, his pajamas laid out on the bed, and a big bowl of hot water to soak his feet in.

Meanwhile, he’ll spend an agonizing few minutes trying to write me a love note and makes sure that he texts me and calls me from work often.

Both of us are also very much into physical affection, so that one is easy.

And yes, we did talk about the book The Five Love Languages together! : )

Knowing his love language helps, too. Let’s say he hasn’t been super sentimental in his words lately. Maybe I am feeling a bit disgruntled by it. Then I will focus on the actions he has done for me lately and realize that he’s been sweet in his own way.

Post # 5
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am definitely an acts of service person – screw little gifts and sweet words – cleaning the fridge and doing household chores without being bugged means a hell of a lot more to me. He values demonstrations of affection and quality time.

Post # 6
510 posts
Busy bee

I say it all the time. I’m very verbal about it. I’m also huggy. SO is definitely NOT expressive (vocally) about it, and it has caused tension. But then I need to sit back and realize that he tells me he loves me silently every time he buys me beer, candy, cleans the dishes, vacuums the apartment, or makes me dinner.

Post # 7
2500 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Hmm…it’s a tricky one with me and my fiancé. When we are together then our love language is very much physical affection – we like cuddling, holding hands etc and if we are not doing that but are still in proximity then every now and then there will be a tap, a little squeeze, just to let the other know we are there. 

But with other people then we are not physically affectionate at all…we are not really big huggers with others unless they hug us first. 

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