(Closed) Different reception ideas…and NOT happy about this

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Have you spoken to him about it? If you are this upset then you should definitely tell him that this is not what you envisioned and maybe you can find a nice compromise somewhere.

A lot of guys just don’t “get” the whole wedding thing and why it is such a big deal. Mine doesn’t, and originally he wanted a small potluck sort of thing too because he was worried about cost, but we worked out a nice compromise and are having a daytime wedding, which cut our catering costs in half over having an evening one.

Post # 4
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7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I’m sure the two of you can find a compromise between these two different ideas!

What about sitting down (separately) and writing down what you want for your wedding – specific things if you have them (i.e. ‘a three tier cake so we can have a traditional cake cutting’) or intangible (i.e. ‘formal’). You’ll probaby have a lot more on your list than he will, so you should probably rank stuff as “must have”, “really want”, “could negotiate”, and write down WHY things are important to you.

Then bring your lists together and talk through them. It sounds like you’ve talked some about this already, but sometimes getting stuff on paper helps see it from a clear perspective what the other person is thinking, and you can start to find middle ground to work from.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

schedule a time. Tell him, very firmly, “I love that you want to help with our wedding plans, but I have a lot of ideas too, but I know now isn’t a good time to do it, so let’s schedule a time to talk about wedding stuff.”

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