(Closed) Different shifts? When are you intimate?

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 2
587 posts
Busy bee

I’m a full-time shift worker, my husband is a day worker.  It can be a struggle sometimes.  Generally it happens in the evening if I have been on an early, and am on a late or day off the next day.  Or it happens on the weekend if I happen to have that weekend off too.  Sometimes we can go a few weeks without doing it, usually due to bad rostering of shifts and my tiredness due to the shift work!!

Post # 3
784 posts
Busy bee

umm weekends. LOL I work 3-1130pm and my husband works normal daytime hours. When I get home he is fast asleep. Of course I would love for it to be more than just weekends. We are used to it now though so I guess its our new normal! When he works from home occasionally during the week we get to be intimate before I go to work as well! 

Post # 6
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

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whoami :  I work a typical 9-5 and my SO works evenings (3-11). That’s not as extreme as you and your SO’s schedule difference, but I can still feel your pain a little! We usually find time on my SO’s days off, really late in the day or really early. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿฝ

Post # 7
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

When I was on a rotating schedule I would love a quickie before I headed in for the night. Put me in a good mood! 

Post # 9
75 posts
Worker bee

SO and I are on opposite schedules too. I’m a teacher. I also work in an afterschool program and go to grad school. So I leave the house at 5:30AM and sometimes don’t get home until 9:00 PM. SO is a chef. He works Wednesday-Sunday and leaves the house around 10 AM most days and sometimes doesn’t get home until 2 AM. So we’re like ships passing a lot too. We take advantange of time off, and if one of us really needs a fix we send at text like “hey, wake me up when you get home wink.” I’m a big fan of the 3 AM quickie lol

Post # 10
1602 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My husband works second shift (3pm-1am) and I wish he worked your schedule! We mostly only see each other on his days off…which right now is pretty much only once a week. In theory, I would love it if he woke me up when he gets home at 1am ish, but I’m usually dead asleep and it never actually works out.

With your schedule, is there anytime between when you get home before he leaves for work, like 8am? Or when does he get home from work, 5:30pm? If he had your schedule, those would be the times we would try to take advantage of  


Post # 11
552 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I would seriously consider either switching back to normal persons sleep schedule on your days off (I am assuming you get more than 2 if you work 12 hour shifts) or find a new job. Only sleep 4-5 hours after your last shift and then get up so you can be normal for a few days  

Never going to bed with your partner and being on opposite schedules 100% of the time is a recipe for disaster. I don’t think that’s conducive to a relationship. 

Post # 13
8 posts
  • Wedding: May 2020

I work 8-4:30 (M-F) and FI works 3-11;30 (Sun-Thur) A lot of our sex is Saturday and Sunday; however, sometimes it happens in the morning before i get ready (he hears my alarm and joins me in my bed). I have driven home for “lunch” also…. We make it work

Post # 14
21 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

Hubby works night (comes home at 7am and goes to bed).  I work from 6am to 2:30pm.  When I get home he is usually still asleep in bed. Our intimacy is usually all in the evening between when he gets up and leaves for work.  Vacation is the only time we seem to spend the night together in the same bed


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