Post # 1
My lovely sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor. She is a curvaceous girl and worried about picking her dress for the wedding. I have two close friends being my bridesmaids and they are alot smaller. This has made her very conscious of her size. She thinks she will look hideous on the day! I have tried to reassure her it is all in her head and they will all look gorgeous no matter what their size but she is struggling with this! Any ideas how to make her feel better and want to go dress shopping?
She is dieting and lost 19lb’s so far and we are all very proud of her, we have a yr till the wedding so i’m sure she’ll loose more!
I did think maybe give her the option of wearing a different dress? Or colour? But dont want her to feel left out i’d like them all in the same really. What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
My girls are all different sizes… MOH/sister is a size 10, BM/friend is a size 28, and my FI’s cousin is a size 2. When we went dress shopping I was open minded. I knew my color but was willing to use more than 1 shade and was open to dress types but tea-length was my first choice. My sister and my friend both loved the same dress. My FI’s cousin liked another dress. I left a little lost. Ultimately I knew how much harder it is to fit my friend so I opted for all 3 girls to wear the same style and put my sister in a darker color. I loved the results! It sounds like you are a great sister so just let your sister find something she’s comfortable in. Good luck and she’ll be beautiful regardless of her size!
Post # 4
I think cpgirl2000 had a really good idea on what to do. I’m planning on letting my girls have free reign, but it has to be in a certain small guideline.
And I am sure she will lose much more weight and look great!
Post # 5
I had this problem, too! I have a bridesmaid that is 5′ and one that’s 6’3! I’ve picked a color (at David’s Bridal) and a length and told the girls to choose their own dress. So far, I’ve been really please with their pics, and I know that they’ll feel comfortable and they’ll be coordinated. 🙂
Post # 6
What about having her own Maid/Matron of Honor dress/color? Or letting everyone pick their own style but in the same color? I hope she doesn’t feel too pressured to lose weight; I’m sure you’ll all look beautiful on the day of.
Post # 7
Have/had the same problem. Maid/Matron of Honor is a size 4 and 5’3″, Bridesmaid or Best Man1 is an 8 and 5’10” and Bridesmaid or Best Man2 is 5’7″ and a 20. My BMs are his sisters, and 15 yrs older than us, and my Maid/Matron of Honor is my sister/1 yr older. Basically, they look nothing alike.
I decided to let them all choose their own dress from one designer/color. Frankly, I’m not quite sure how it’s going to turn out, but I’m pretty certain it will look fine and each dress will reflect the girl wearing it. And I’m good with that.
Post # 8
My bridesmaids are a 10 and 12 and my Maid/Matron of Honor is at least an 18. I’m letting them pick their own dresses. The BMs have chosen theirs but Maid/Matron of Honor is procrastinating (hoping to lose weight before July wedding) but she’ll definitely end up in a different dress and color than the other two. It’s a little more complicated to find dresses that come in the right sizes and are flattering to all, but if you’re compassionate and somewhat flexible (which it sounds like you are), it should all work out. I’ve heard of BMs chickening out because they’re self-conscious about size, so be prepared to do a little gentle coaxing if necessary.
Post # 9
Thanks for all your advise. I am very flexiable on the style. The colour is pink and i dont mind which shade. My two bridesmaids have pretty similar taste so i can see them picking the same dress/shade. I had a thought today…. what do you think? I could give my sister Maid/Matron of Honor the option of wearing ivory like me and then my 2 BM’s in the same pink dress? Will that work? I really just want them all to feel comfortable on the day….
Post # 10
I have the same problem! Two Bridesmaid or Best Man are 0’s, one a 6, and the last one about a 20. Also, the 6 is about 8 inches taller than the others! I’m planning on going with a casual cotton dress and just hoping it will look okay on all of them!
Post # 11
I think the idea of your sister wearing Ivory would be cute, with maybe a pink sash that is the same colour as your other girls dresses.
Post # 12
I think that you have a great idea there! I also like Baileyh’s idea of the sash.
Post # 13
i have a similar problem—we decided on the “spiced wine” color bridesmaid dresses from jcrew–they have a wrap dress that will fit my larger bridesmaid and still be flattering. i’m letting them pick from 1 of 4 dresses..this was really our only option, as my maids live all over the country. they seem pretty happy with the decision though.
Post # 14
I have 5 bridesmaids.. They are sizes 24, 16, 8, 6, and 4. We ended up choosing Bill Levkoff’s #380 and #379. The girls can get whichever length they feel comfortable with, and the pleated chiffon will allow for all sorts of customized strap options. The dresses will be a solid color, either wine or espresso. (although the sample was navy and everyone loved it)
Post # 15
My suggestions are two fold:
My girls are a size 2 at 5’6″, size 14 at 5’7″ and 14 at 5’9″. None of them have similar body types. I picked a fabric, a color, a lenght and a designer, and let them choose. So they all look similar but not exactly the same. And i think the effect is great.
If that’s not really going to work for the look you want, go shopping with your Maid/Matron of Honor first, without the other bridesmaids. It’s a way to make her feel special, directly address her concerns, and usually (but not always) if she finds something that looks great on her, it will look good on smaller, skinnier, or other wise shaped women. Even try shopping together NOT for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, find a dress that fits her personality that she feels like she rocks, and use that as the basis for shopping for her Maid/Matron of Honor dress – shape, fit, cut, rouching.
Post # 16
Thanx for all your input ladies! It’s a great help and comfort knowing others have the same issues and can work around them. I love the idea of the ivory dress and the pink sash! So it all ties in.
Also going shopping with Maid/Matron of Honor first. You are probably right. Whatever she likes will most likely look OK on a smaller BM!
Can i just add it’s nice alot of other brides have 3 bridesmaids/MOH. People say having 3 is odd but i think it’s OK and i’m glad i’m not the only one!