(Closed) Different than what you envisioned?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Yep.  I wanted a strapless lace sheath and ended up with an illusion neckline fit and flare – it did have some lace appliqués but wasn’t the all-lace dress I’d imagined! Don’t second guess yourself – what you think you want isn’t always what looks good on you at all.  If you love your dress, stop thinking about other dresses! 

Post # 3
685 posts
Busy bee

Nope. I knew what I wanted and didn’t shop around much. 

Post # 4
9436 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Yup. I wanted simple (no lace, no beading) and minimal poof, probably sleeves. I ended up with a lace and beaded ballgowns with no sleeves. 

Post # 5
894 posts
Busy bee

yeah. I wanted a pure white no lace full poofy ballgown. I end up loving A-line (but the fuller ones), ombre/light color dresses with lace and beaded bodice.

Post # 6
5648 posts
Bee Keeper

Yup. Thought I’d go all floaty tulle and bo-Ho. 

Found the plainest structured dresses were the ones I loved. 

Post # 7
12 posts
  • Wedding: January 2017

Go with your gut I say. I had my little vision dresses and when I went and tried those on I didn’t feel like a bride or a princess… Then I tried the dress I ended up buying and was bouncing around like a 7 year old in mummy’s dress! It’s perfect. AND the dress that I bought actually was just the ‘base’ dress for all the changes that my wonderful mum did for me to make it the dream! 
I saw the dresses potential 😉 and that’s what matters. 


How does it look when you have it on? Do you feel like a bride? Do you think you’ll photograph well in that dress? Can you move in it? Can you sit in it? And MOST IMPORTANTLY, CAN YOU EAT IN IT?!

Post # 8
2168 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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taali :  genuinely the reason I didn’t try mermaid gowns on lol!

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MrsTuna17 :  on the one hand, I bought the dress I always imagined I’d have. It’s a strapless ball gown. I suit strapless ball gowns so it was a no brainer. It is, however, all lace which I didn’t really expect to love. I love lace, but I expected accents not all over lace. I tried on a dress with a very beaded body and a full tulle skirt, which I expected to love but I hated!!

If you love your dress, don’t second guess yourself. It’s important that you feel amazing 🙂

Post # 9
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I was completely convinced I wanted a pure white lace a-line with straps and maybe some bling.  Ended up with an ivory strapless silk mikado dress with no decoration at all. 

Post # 10
492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Actually no. I initially ended up with a plain mikado silk gown which was stunning but felt nothing like ‘me’. So I let myself get talked into it before giving it some (much needed) thought, and am now going for my original vision: lacey ballgown. 

As the other bees have already said, just go with your gut. Some worries are totally normal (after all we have to wait soooo long for our dresses nowadays!) but if your gut’s saying it’s absolutely wrong for you (like mine did with my original choice) then go with that too.

Post # 11
1282 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Yes. I started off on Pinterest pinning illusion backs and very sexy Israeli gowns….all I wanted was ‘an interesting back’. The practicality of hoisting up my 30Es and the fact I’m not a millionaire led me to a very simple strapless corset mermaid. Funnily enough I found a photo the other day I’d clipped out of a magazine 15 years ago as my ideal wedding dress at the time, and it was like an early 2000s version of my dress. Quite funny that in the end I went with what was ‘me’,  not what was trendy now. Don’t worry- people tend to end up with what just feels like them.

Post # 12
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Absolutely.  I LOVE romantic looks with lots of embellishment in photos: flowy skirts, embroidery, beading.  My favorite clothes for getting dressed up in my regular life have ruffles, beads, patterns, and other interesting details.  I understand the appeal of simple well made clothes in neutral colors and classic silhouettes, but…boring!  For my wedding dress I envisioned a gown with lots of interesting texture and details, with lace, embroidery, and/or beading, and a big tulle or embellished skirt.  I hated the look of satin wedding dresses, particularly when it was very shiny in photos.  When trying on wedding dresses, though, the lace and beaded dresses left me emotionally cold.  They looked great on my body, but I felt nothing…like kissing a cute guy but feeling no chemistry, lol.  Then when I put on a simple satin A line gown…warm fuzzies!  Happiness!  Tears!  It just felt right.

That’s why it’s really best to try a bunch of different wedding dress styles in the beginning, because what appeals to you in theory (or in photos of other people) may not be what works on you in person.

Post # 13
1327 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

My dress is 100% totally not what I wanted (before trying it on). I had always thought I’d want an a-line or ballgown style stress. I was so sure. I went to try on dresses with so many pictures of ball gowns. I absolutely hated fishtail style stresses and didn’t want to try those on. I tried on quite a few ball gown and a-line style dresses and HATED them. None of them looked great, they did nothing for my body. Then the consultant brought out a fishtail style dress. I hated it on the hanger and was so sure I just hated them in general, I’d never pick one. I was still set on ball gown. But I’d read that you should try on all styles even if you think you won’t like something because you never know. I tried on the what I thought was a horrible dress and… it was perfect. I had tears in my eyes. I didn’t want to take it off. It was completely different to what I thought I wanted. I would never have tried on anything like it if the consultant hadn’t suggested it. I’m a plus sized lady and the ball gowns just made me look bigger. The dress I picked makes me look curvy in a good way. 

You love your dress, don’t worry about what you thought you wanted! I haven’t thought about ball gowns since because I frigging love my dress. I had my first fitting yesterday and the seamstress pinned it in so it’s fitting even better around my waist. It looks amazing, I’ve fallen even more in love with it.

I think it’s so easy to get wrapped up in what you think you want. Looking at your dream dress on someone else (pictures in magazines, on the internet) is totally different to looking at it on your body. What I thought was my dream dress looked perfect on other women so I thought it would look great on me. It didn’t because I have a different body shape. And that’s totally OK! My dress might not look great on those ladies who picked ball gowns. We’re all different and all look good in different things!

This is the a-line dress I thought I wanted. It’s a beautiful dress but it does nothing for me. In real life it was worse, I looked like one of those knitted dolls you put over toilet rolls… (I know it’s massive but really, it wouldn’t have looked good even if it fitted right I just look wide).

And this is my dress (again, it doesn’t fit but it does so much more for my shape I think!)

Post # 15
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Yes and no.  I ended up with the simple, romantic, flowy dress that I envisioned.  But…I swore I’d never buy a strapless dress or one with an illusion neckline.  Didn’t even want to try them on.  The search was over the instant I put on one with an illusion neckline.  I absolutely loved it!  Sometimes, we surprise ourselves.

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