Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn
I’m trying to figure out if I want to take my (now) husband’s last name or hyphenate mine with his.
In searching the forums here I have seen many post that they got rid of their middle name and use their maiden name as their middle name and their husband’s last name as their new last name. But I’m curious why you would do that? Just so you don’t have some super long name? I’ve also seen others say they added their husband’s last name to theirs, but not hyphenated, so they have two last names. What’s the difference between that and hyphenating?
Genuinely just curious. This is all new to me!
Post # 2
I took his last name legally, but socially I did the “nee O’Mally” which means Granddaughter of. My grandma was my best friend and I lost her a few years ago so that’s my way of keeping her name going.
Post # 3
I dropped my middle, made my maiden my middle, and took his last name. So I’m now legally:
First Maiden Married
It’s most popular here in the south, and a tradition I knew I wanted to keep. My friends from up north or other places dropped their last name, and changed it to their married name.
ETA: I am quite often socially known as my maiden name because it’s still my business name and how I’m known professionally.
Post # 4
I don’t have a middle name so I would use my maiden name as middle name and take husbands last name. I definitely don’t want to write a long ass surname lol… and I’d like to keep my surname somewhere in there, as a nice keepsake. But day to day I won’t have to write it out.
Post # 5
I went maiden to middle as well. I thought about hyphenating, so I tested it out, by signing out my name hyphenated. Nope! I knew I didn’t want to do that for the rest of my life. Plus, I never really liked my middle name, but always liked my last name, and I liked my husband’s name. Essentially, I kept the best 3 names of the 4, and dropped the one I liked the least.
Post # 6
xraychick01 : I also did the maiden to middle name, which is what I’ve only ever known members of my family to do. I thought about dropping my maiden and keeping my middle but I decided that I would miss my maiden name more than my middle name. A few people have been surprised when they heard that’s what I did, so I didn’t realize it wasn’t as common as I’d assumed. Just do what feels right to you!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2019 - Country/barn
My problem is I like all my names! Lol. I don’t want to drop my middle name, that much I know. My first name has 7 letters, my maiden name has 8, and my married last name has 5 so if I hyphenate it will be long. But I actually like the way it all sounds when you say it all together. I’m not totally opposed to just taking his last name. I’m just not sure how I want to do it. I didn’t think this would be so difficult a decision!
Post # 8
My state doesn’t allow maiden to middle changes through the marriage name change process, so it was an easier decision for me to drop my maiden name vs making it my middle name. (It’s still possible to do, but you have to pay for/go through the steps of a normal legal name change.)
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME
xraychick01 : I’ll be adding his onto my last name without a hyphen, so I’ll have two last names. I like the idea of having a family name, but also don’t want to lose my name that I’ve built my life with. I won’t be changing anything work-wise, but socially I might go by both or just his. I haven’t decided yet, but I like that it gives me options for now and later on in life!
Post # 10
I got rid of my middle name, use my maiden name as my middle now and took husbands last name.
i didn’t want a really long name and my maiden name means a lot to me, my original middle name didn’t really.
i still use my maiden name at work, so I haven’t really gotten used to using my husbands last name quite yet…
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2020 - New Hampshire
I am keeping my last name and my give middle name. I asked my partner if he’d consider changing his and he said no, so I said “why should I change mine?” And he agreed! Socially if someone calls me Mrs. First HisLast, I won’t be offended, but I will make a point to correct them. I love my last name 🙂
Post # 12
xraychick01 : My Mother-In-Law kept all of her names so her legal name is very long. It’s First Middle Maiden Last. But no hypens. She did scoot her maiden into her middle name so it looks a little funny on some documents. I got rid of my maiden because I hated the way it sounded and didn’t like the letter itself in my legal name.
Post # 13
I love my maiden name as well, so I decided to do the maiden to middle change. And something a little unique, he took my maiden name as his middle name as well! His old middle name was not special to him, so he was completely on board with the idea. So we are both Mr. and Mrs. First Name, My Maiden Name, His Last Name. We love it!
Post # 14
I’m doing the maiden to middle. And I say that as someone who REALLY loves my given middle name! I’ll be a bit sad to see it go, but I can use it for emails, social media, monograms, basically anything that isn’t a legal document.
As for why I am going this route and not two last names sans-hyphen (which I initially settled on), it’s for ease. I like the sound of our names together, and want to use them together professionally. I work in higher education, which is pretty laid back about which names you use. If I can go by whatever I want professionally and have the legal ease of a “First Middle Last” arrangement, it’s a win-win in my books.
Post # 15
I replaced my middle name with my maiden name for a few reasons- first, I’m in the South and as prior bees have stated it’s pretty common here. I also wasn’t interested in hyphenating or double-barreling my last name, since that would be pretty long. I didn’t want to add my maiden name as a second middle name since I believe that if you have two middle names the second one often gets dropped for legal paperwork. I also wasn’t all that attached to my middle name since it’s probably in the top 5 of middle names given to baby girls born in the 80s. (Although it is my mom’s name- sorry mom!) I also wanted to keep some part of my maiden name as part of my legal name since I wanted continuity there.