Different ways to change name after marriage

posted 5 months ago in Beehive
Post # 2
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I took his last name legally, but socially I did the “nee O’Mally” which means Granddaughter of. My grandma was my best friend and I lost her a few years ago so that’s my way of keeping her name going. 

Post # 3
7000 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I dropped my middle, made my maiden my middle, and took his last name. So I’m now legally:

First Maiden Married

It’s most popular here in the south, and a tradition I knew I wanted to keep. My friends from up north or other places dropped their last name, and changed it to their married name.

ETA: I am quite often socially known as my maiden name because it’s still my business name and how I’m known professionally. 

Post # 4
1236 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t have a middle name so I would use my maiden name as middle name and take husbands last name. I definitely don’t want to write a long ass surname lol… and I’d like to keep my surname somewhere in there, as a nice keepsake. But day to day I won’t have to write it out.

Post # 5
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I went maiden to middle as well. I thought about hyphenating, so I tested it out, by signing out my name hyphenated. Nope! I knew I didn’t want to do that for the rest of my life. Plus, I never really liked my middle name, but always liked my last name, and I liked my husband’s name. Essentially, I kept the best 3 names of the 4, and dropped the one I liked the least. 


Post # 6
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

xraychick01 :  I also did the maiden to middle name, which is what I’ve only ever known members of my family to do. I thought about dropping my maiden and keeping my middle but I decided that I would miss my maiden name more than my middle name. A few people have been surprised when they heard that’s what I did, so I didn’t realize it wasn’t as common as I’d assumed. Just do what feels right to you! 

Post # 8
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My state doesn’t allow maiden to middle changes through the marriage name change process, so it was an easier decision for me to drop my maiden name vs making it my middle name. (It’s still possible to do, but you have to pay for/go through the steps of a normal legal name change.)

Post # 9
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - York, ME

xraychick01 :  I’ll be adding his onto my last name without a hyphen, so I’ll have two last names.  I like the idea of having a family name, but also don’t want to lose my name that I’ve built my life with.  I won’t be changing anything work-wise, but socially I might go by both or just his. I haven’t decided yet, but I like that it gives me options for now and later on in life!

Post # 10
2917 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I got rid of my middle name, use my maiden name as my middle now and took husbands last name.

i didn’t want a really long name and my maiden name means a lot to me, my original middle name didn’t really.

i still use my maiden name at work, so I haven’t really gotten used to using my husbands last name quite yet…

xraychick01 :  

Post # 11
154 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - New Hampshire

I am keeping my last name and my give middle name. I asked my partner if he’d consider changing his and he said no, so I said “why should I change mine?” And he agreed! Socially if someone calls me Mrs. First HisLast, I won’t be offended, but I will make a point to correct them. I love my last name 🙂

Post # 12
6443 posts
Bee Keeper

xraychick01 :  My Mother-In-Law kept all of her names so her legal name is very long.  It’s First Middle Maiden Last.  But no hypens.  She did scoot her maiden into her middle name so it looks a little funny on some documents.  I got rid of my maiden because I hated the way it sounded and didn’t like the letter itself in my legal name.

Post # 13
47 posts
  • Wedding: October 2018

I love my maiden name as well, so I decided to do the maiden to middle change. And something a little unique, he took my maiden name as his middle name as well! His old middle name was not special to him, so he was completely on board with the idea. So we are both Mr. and Mrs. First Name, My Maiden Name, His Last Name. We love it! 

Post # 14
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I’m doing the maiden to middle. And I say that as someone who REALLY loves my given middle name! I’ll be a bit sad to see it go, but I can use it for emails, social media, monograms, basically anything that isn’t a legal document. 

As for why I am going this route and not two last names sans-hyphen (which I initially settled on), it’s for ease. I like the sound of our names together, and want to use them together professionally. I work in higher education, which is pretty laid back about which names you use. If I can go by whatever I want professionally and have the legal ease of a “First Middle Last” arrangement, it’s a win-win in my books. 

Post # 15
1210 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I replaced my middle name with my maiden name for a few reasons- first, I’m in the South and as prior bees have stated it’s pretty common here. I also wasn’t interested in hyphenating or double-barreling my last name, since that would be pretty long. I didn’t want to add my maiden name as a second middle name since I believe that if you have two middle names the second one often gets dropped for legal paperwork. I also wasn’t all that attached to my middle name since it’s probably in the top 5 of middle names given to baby girls born in the 80s. (Although it is my mom’s name- sorry mom!) I also wanted to keep some part of my maiden name as part of my legal name since I wanted continuity there. 

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