(Closed) Difficult Bridesmaids

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If the ball schedule isn’t out yet she really can’t give you dates. Just carry on without her. Not all BM’s participate equally.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

You can’t force her to attend – just plan the dates that work best for the bride.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly I would have a hard time coming up with dates that work to a date six months out too.   If you’re specificallytrying to find out dates that don’t conflict with ball at all she just doesn’t have that schedule yet. Maybe try asking her for dates that eveseat ball season started its not likely to conflict with games/tournaments she absolutely wants to go to. Even if she doesn’t have her full schedule she probably knows at least what weekends major tournaments or playoffs usually take place and could work around NOT planning it for those.  If it conflictss with less important games and she still chooses to skip that’s on her. You’ve done your due dilligence .

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@shewolfie66:  you are going to have to come to terms with the fact that she’s not going to be as involved as you’d like her to be.  Some women feel their only duties with being a Bridesmaid or Best Man are buying a dress and showing up to the wedding.

Don’t stress out about it.  Smile

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@shewolfie66:  Exactly. That’s why I’m saying it might be easier if you ask her for he dates she knows absolutely won’t work. Im thinking youre giving her too much leeway in working around a schedule of non-important games that for a friend most people would just skip.  As the organizer I’m happy to plan around a weekend that I know is the cumulative of the entire season or a really important tournament but not for a random nothing game. 

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