- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
If the ball schedule isn’t out yet she really can’t give you dates. Just carry on without her. Not all BM’s participate equally.
No dates for June at all. The Bride asked us all to be there and we are all local to the bride.
I have to plan early so I can work around a busy summer work schedule and planning my own wedding. So I guess that leaves leaving her out. I just don’t know how to break it to the bride
You can’t force her to attend – just plan the dates that work best for the bride.
Honestly I would have a hard time coming up with dates that work to a date six months out too. If you’re specificallytrying to find out dates that don’t conflict with ball at all she just doesn’t have that schedule yet. Maybe try asking her for dates that eveseat ball season started its not likely to conflict with games/tournaments she absolutely wants to go to. Even if she doesn’t have her full schedule she probably knows at least what weekends major tournaments or playoffs usually take place and could work around NOT planning it for those. If it conflictss with less important games and she still chooses to skip that’s on her. You’ve done your due dilligence .
@SapphireSun: I just have a hard time because if you love and respect the bride you will be there for her shower/bachorette. She has already told us that she will not be getting the bride a wedding or any other present because she is paying so much to be a bridesmaid. I guess I am most frustrated with her attitude because although I WILL have trouble making summer events because summer is field season and I work 70+ hours a week I am picking a date so far a head of time so I can plan my life around it! it is not the world series of softball but a rec league!
@shewolfie66: you are going to have to come to terms with the fact that she’s not going to be as involved as you’d like her to be. Some women feel their only duties with being a Bridesmaid or Best Man are buying a dress and showing up to the wedding.
Don’t stress out about it.
@shewolfie66: Exactly. That’s why I’m saying it might be easier if you ask her for he dates she knows absolutely won’t work. Im thinking youre giving her too much leeway in working around a schedule of non-important games that for a friend most people would just skip. As the organizer I’m happy to plan around a weekend that I know is the cumulative of the entire season or a really important tournament but not for a random nothing game.
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