Post # 1
This is another “to invite or not invite” co-workers post. But the details make it particularly difficult for me.
I started working at a museum in July 2010. As a perk of being employed there I get a free rental, so I’m using it as the venue for my wedding reception in October. There are only about 12 other workers there. I was only wanting to invite 3 of them (two are single and one is married). However, would this be really tacky since it will be AT work? It will be on a Saturday after hours (right at closing), so only 2 of the staff will be there working, and they are invited.
I’d like to keep my wedding to under 65 people, but if my other co-workers come and bring their spouse, it’d really push me over. I really doubt they’d want to come to work on a Saturday to someone’s wedding they’re not very close with, but you never know. Of course everyone knows about it because it’s reserved on the rental calender. They’ve also already mentioned throwing me a shower at work.
Any tips on how to handle this?
Post # 3
Just don’t invite them. No need to explain to them why, especially if they don’t bring it up. it’s a wedding and they aren’t close to you, I’m pretty sure they’ll understand. Do what you gotta do, I know how hard it is. I’ve posted a “to invite or not to invite the coworker” posts. In the end I went with my gut and invited only the people I know and I am friends with. Go with your gut and it will all be ok. 🙂
Post # 4
I think many brides spend way too much time and energy worrying about what will happen if they don’t invite co-workers.
Do you seriously think you should be invited to the weddings of all your co-workers? Of course not.
Adults should be able to understand that work relationships are different than social rellationships.
Post # 5
I think whether to invite coworkers is blown out of proportion sometimes. Personally, I don’t really want to attend the wedding of someone I’m not close with and have to spend $150 on a gift. I’d rather just attend the lunch hour “shower” and throw my ten bucks in the group gift.
Maybe I’m a grinch though 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks for your replies! I really would rather not invite them. I know it would be no secret that some would be invited and not others, because that’s just how they are. In fact I found out of some nasty rumours some have been spreading about me. So if they already have judged me so negatively, what’s one more thing for them to talk about?
Why can’t we all just get along?
Post # 7
These replies worked well for me too. I work at a dog boarding kennel where there are 8 employees (I make 9). I would love to invite everyone but… Someone has to be at the kennel working when I have my wedding. Derp!
But I have to remember…. Work does not equal life.