(Closed) Difficult first pregnancy and trying for number 2!

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
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Helper bee

I was on hospital bed rest for placenta previa for 2 months, before a planned c-section at 36 weeks. At the time, people (nurses and doctors) said I was doing really well, emotionally. And it’s true, I am a positive person. But the aftermath of a long hospital stay and dealing with a preemie newborn left me with a weird foggy feeling. (Although I’m not totally sure if it was just a “normal” reaction to becoming a mom or if it was emotional trauma related to my pregnancy issues.)

Around 1 year, I finally started to feel more normal. My period didn’t return until around 18 months, and even then I wasn’t sure if I could handle another round. Hospital bed rest with a toddler to miss at home sounded heartbreaking.

I’m 3 months pregnant now, and early ultrasounds suggest I may not have previa again, which is awesome. Ultimately, I ended up deciding that my desire for another kid was enough to go through that crap again. If you’re not there yet, don’t worry. I’d suggest waiting until you’re ready, because if it does happen again, you’ll need that emotional strength to help your whole family survive it. (And if you decide it’s not worth it, that’s cool too, of course.)

Post # 17
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4260 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I am also NTNP and nursing.  But I have not experienced what you did in your first, except for perterm labour with my second.  We were successful at keeping baby in though.  However, you will be high risk I think, given your history, so I would be tempted to wait a little longer.  If any or all of that were to happen again, coping with it with your DS so young wouold increase your stress exponentially.  I think this is a time I would hope/pray for the best, but really have a plan in place so that you and your DS have allthe support and care you need, so things get complicated.  

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

I can relate to you. I was lucky I didn’t have much morning sickness and the first 2.5 months my pregnancy was going well despite finding out I have a bicornuate uterus at the first ultrasound. I found out I was pregnant in October and in January I started bleeding heavily,  I thought I was having a miscarriage.  Luckily I wasn’t and I am still not sure why I bled for sure.  I bled off and on for 2 weeks,  I was afraid to move because I thought I would bleed more.  I even bought a home fetal doppler,  to check on my baby’s heartbeat. Things were going great up until around 29 weeks,  I went into premature labour and my son was born at 29w4d! My son was in the hospital for around 7 weeks and today he is doing great even though he was born so early. 

I am also wanting another baby but I am terrified.  I am thinking of talking to my Dr about my fears and ask her what happens if and when I get pregnant again.  I know I will now be considered high risk because of my bicornuate uterus, having a premature baby and also my age,  I am almost 37! 🙁 It will be worth it and I want my son to have a sibling,  so I am hoping I can get past my fears. 

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