Post # 1
My friend is going through some tough times. I know this not because she told me, but because I heard from a mutual friend. I have contacted her about getting together a few times and haven’t gotten any response. So the last time I texted:
“Hi Karen. How are you? Miss you! When are you free?”
Her response: “Ha! Seems like I’m never free! Doing well otherwise.”
I sometimes take things too personally, so I figured I would ask The Bee. How would you interpret this?
ETA: By tough times, I mean that a mutual friend said she had been a little depressed a few months ago and was being unavailable to him as well.
Post # 3
Just as she said it. Hi, things are fine and I’m busy. Even if my mother were dying I wouldn’t reply to a “Hello” text with a monologue about my horrid emotional state. Some people are also really good with dealing with tough things and just because things are tough doesn’t mean they are about to break down. There really isn’t enough information there to really interpret anything. Just ask her again if she’s available this weekend or something. She could have simply forgotten to reply to that part of the txt. Don’t worry. 🙂
Post # 4
Aww, you sound like a good friend for being concerned! But I’m in a similar situation as your friend right now, so I can tell you from experience not to feel bad. I’m going through a really rough time and some of my friends know a lot about it. Some of my other friends know, but only from hearing from others. I’ve had some of them text me things like you did and I’m sure they’re trying to help/get me to open up, but I usually reply with something like she did.
It’s not that I don’t love/trust/care for these people. It’s that I’ve chosen very specific friends to open up to, because I just don’t have the energy to open up to everyone. Depending on the situation, my choices would have varied. For example, the friend I’ve told the most to–it’s because she’s going through something similiar, so she gets it.
Anyway, I would just reply: “Ok, well I really miss you and would like to make plans to hang out. Let me know when you’re free!”
It’s in her court. You’ve made an effort to be there, but it’s not your job to hunt her down.