- 4 years ago
Hey guys. I wanted to talk with you about one of my friends who just hasn’t been sitting right with me lately.
She has moved back to GA after finishing her undergrad. While I understand she is on edge about certain things in her life, she has been completely unpredictable and has taken very indirect, yet nonetheless hurtful jabs at me.
She has a new LDR relationship with a man who is divorced (and 23). She comes from a very conversative catholic family and I don’t think she can be that open with them about his past history. She has also struggled a lot with her weight and is very critical of herself.
My friend has often told me that my SO and I spend too much time together and that we are “attached at the hip”. We don’t live together and I saw him maybe 3 times a week between my school and his job as an accountant. I wouldn’t categorize that as “attached at the hip”. Anyways, I credited this to her missing her bf and I let it go.
This weekend, after my SO visited me and left, I texted her saying “I don’t know how you and Adrian do it. LDR is hard! I just said bye to Clint”. I did this to show support. Since my SO got fired, he has been 2 hours away. He finally came to see me and I was already missing him moments after he left. Instead of supporting us, she stated “It’s ok because we don’t have to be attached at the hip and see each other everyday”. EXCUSE ME? I was trying to be nice! In no way did I mean to remind her of her bf being far and get her panties in a wad but I seemed to do so.
My friend is going through a difficult time because there is drama in a separate friends circle. I have been there through text and in person to support her and dwell on the situation. Just the other day, I mentioned how a girl from high school was talking about me to other mutual friends. I told my friend about this and she said “lol w/e”. That was literally her text. The situations that we are going through aren’t much different. I had simply mentioned this situation in order to let my friend know its bizarre nature and all she said was whatever.
A few months ago when my BF and I had a double date with her and someone she claimed was way below her standards, we noticed how catty and negative she was. I feel like I am losing one of my best friends from high school. She is a different person. She used to be fun, but now she is nasty and judgemental.
I think we need space. I don’t know when I text her which person I will get today. Her texts sting with their shortness and their uppity feel. I am so sick of this. I have very few female friends despite being a college student. I transferred and it’s been difficult. I feel like I need to keep her close but it will be only harmful to us both if I do it just because my number of friends is small.
I feel like I am overreacting but I also know my friend is insecure and it is effecting me now. Not in the sense that I am becoming insecure, but she is hurting my feelings with her untrue snarkiness about my relationship.She just brings a negative vibe.