(Closed) Difficult Invitation Wording

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1740 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

“Together with their families

Jane and Jack

Request the pleasure of (or honor of)….”

Post # 3
6272 posts
Bee Keeper

You are cordially invited to the wedding of your name and you FIs name, hosted by your dads name and your grandmothers name at the home of aunt and uncles names. 

Post # 4
4100 posts
Honey bee

MelissainNC:  +1

If anything, you can give them a special “shout out” in your programs. I think it’s just too much to word on an invitation, but that’s just my 2 cents.

Post # 5
13668 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d just go the “together with their families” route, too.  I’m sure your FI’s family is providing emotional support, if they aren’t able to giving monetary support.

Post # 6
3224 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

akaproducer:  you say your aunt and uncle are hosting the wedding, so I guess to be correct their names should be the ones on the invite, but that would probably seem weird so if suggest “together with their families”. FWIW, paying does not equal hosting and the invite isn’t a family tree or a list of sponsors. It’s to let guests know who is actually hosting the thing. 

Post # 7
1199 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Jane and Jack request the pleasure of your company at their wedding to be held at Such and Such Address. 


Who is financially contrbuting does not need to be listed.

Post # 8
638 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I almost always think “Together with their families” is best. Paying doesn’t equal hosting.

Post # 9
1693 posts
Bumble bee

If your aunt and uncle are hosting, and the wedding is a traditional formal affair, then the invitation reads

Mr and Mrs John Uncle
request the pleasure of the company of
<write-in line for Guests’ names>
at the marriage of his niece
Aka Middlename
Mr Talland Handsome &tc

If you don’t have the same name as the host or hostess, and if the host and hostess don’t use the same name, then first five lines read

Mr John Uncle and Ms Jane Aunt
request the pleasure of the company of
<write-in line for Guests’ names>
at the marriage of her niece
Aka Middlename Yourlast

If the wedding is informal, then the invitation reads

Dear <guest’s firstname>
John’s niece Aka is to be married on July 24 to
Talland Handsome. The wedding will be at our
home at six in the evening, with a supper to

follow, and dancing on the veranda. We hope
you will join us for the wedding.
Aunties Name

Financial details are personal and private and are not disclosed in polite society. The hostess is the person who is taking social responsibility for the guests’ comfort, safety and entertainment during the event, regardless of who actually pays the bills.

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