(Closed) Difficult Job Related Issue and Family

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’d just tell him.  The other alternative is just at least bring up the idea of potential layoffs in the company and in his department so at least he has an idea.   You hate to be the bearer of bad news but you might be able to buy him a little time to start looking for a new job before he gets let go. 

Post # 4
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’d either tell him or at least drop hints that you heard that there would be layoffs from his department or something.  That will at least give him a chance to start considering where he’ll stand post-severance.

Sorry you had to find out about this ahead of time.  You shouldn’t have to be in this position at all.

Post # 5
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Tell him.  The more time he has to start looking for work, the better.

It’s really unfortunate that your boss put you in this situation – unless he’s unaware of the family connection?  He really should’ve kept you as far away from this as possible.

Post # 6
22 posts

I would tell him and tell him to keep quiet about it…at least he can start looking for another job and be prepared.

Post # 7
46421 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would keep my mouth shut unless I also wanted to be unemployed.

If you blab what you saw at work, your employer has no reason to trust you in any other regard. It’s also amazing what a small world it is, and the chance of your employer finding out about your lack of confidentiality is higher than you think.


You may have to explain to your uncle afterwards, but telling him is not going to change a thing for him.

Post # 8
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Were you supposed to see that paper? Was it related to what you were retrieving? And/or was it left in an easy to see place?

Don’t take this next one the wrong way, but could the fact that you saw it in ANY way be construed as “snooping”?

If snooping, my advice would be different, but as it stands, assuming that the information was in plain sight or even moreso if you were in any way involved with actually handling this information, you need to let your boss know that this information is a conflict of interest for you and that you’re not comfortable being professionally involved. You also need to tell him that you’re not comfortable having this knowledge before your uncle does – and ask what their timeline is for informing him and the other 4.

Professionally, you’re probably bound to confidentiality, but I would personally probably try to vaguely imply it to him. If the budget cuts have been announced already, a lot of people are probably questioning their jobs – your uncle included. I would just indirectly “encourage” his thinking that his job may be on the line, without directly saying that you know anything.

Post # 9
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I would definitley keep my mouth shut. At my old job, people who gave hints others were about to be let go were let go themselves. If your Uncle asks if you knew, I would say they were talking about letting people go for several months, but you hadn’t heard anything recently.

 I don’t understand what telling him is going to accomplish unless you’re giving him a few months notice. If he becomes upset and confronts someone you’re going to get dragged into it.

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