- 6 years ago
I am having a hard time handling my bridal party. I asked my twin sister to be my Maid/Matron of Honor even though we are not really close – completely different personalities and she tends to steal the limelight. My other bridesmaids are wonderful but when I ask them to clue me in I find out that my Maid/Matron of Honor is being really rude to them about just about everything.
I asked her to include my other bridesmaids in planning bridal shower and bachelorette and her response to me was “Typically the Maid/Matron of Honor plans all of that” and I said I understood that but I wanted everyone involved. She seems to be more engrossed in being the Maid/Matron of Honor than realizing the Maid/Matron of Honor is here to help the bride.
Ultimately it’s causing a lot of tension and stress for my other bridesmaids (and for me to the extent that I know what is going on which I’m sure I only know the tip of the iceberg). Since I’m not “supposed” to know what’s going on, how can I talk to my Maid/Matron of Honor and get her to be nicer to my bridesmaids without her thinking they are complaining to me?